Enmeshed with parents

[Depression = 72% of members]

After 5 months of posting on the leaving forum, I am posting here on the staying forum. My relationship with my ex isn't normal. We are now "friends". But I wanted to ask anyone if they have seen the pwBPD in their lives being enmeshed with his/her parents. My exgf needs permission from her parents for every single thing. She is one person outside of her home, one person inside of her home... . just like a 15-16 year old would. But she is 29. She is living at home because if she leaves, her parents will disown her. That was the reason why she broke up with me too, because her parents wouldn't approve. She will dress conservative when leaving home, and take it all off in the car. She will get drunk and everyone thinks she is the nice, never-drinking, no-guy, no-sex religious girl. And that is what she wants everyone to think. When she can go out, when she comes home... . it all depends on her parents. If they ask her to be home early, she gets flustered that it is 10pm and she is not home yet and her parents will get angry. They have even threatened to kill her (emotional blackmail?) and she still defends them with "that is their way of showing their love".

I am just wondering if anyone else has seen enmeshment like this?

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After 5 months of posting on the leaving forum, I am posting here on the staying forum. My relationship with my ex isn't normal. We are now "friends". But I wanted to ask anyone if they have seen the pwBPD in their lives being enmeshed with his/her parents. My exgf needs permission from her parents for every single thing. She is one person outside of her home, one person inside of her home... . just like a 15-16 year old would. But she is 29. She is living at home because if she leaves, her parents will disown her. That was the reason why she broke up with me too, because her parents wouldn't approve. She will dress conservative when leaving home, and take it all off in the car. She will get drunk and everyone thinks she is the nice, never-drinking, no-guy, no-sex religious girl. And that is what she wants everyone to think. When she can go out, when she comes home... . it all depends on her parents. If they ask her to be home early, she gets flustered that it is 10pm and she is not home yet and her parents will get angry. They have even threatened to kill her (emotional blackmail?) and she still defends them with "that is their way of showing their love".

I am just wondering if anyone else has seen enmeshment like this?

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