And now I'm getting crazy texts out of nowhere

[Depression = 72% of members]

I swear our exes are all part of some BPD hive mind or something.  After very limited contact for the past few weeks (mostly involving a few things she left in my garage that she wanted to pick up) I got the following series of texts completely out of nowhere yesterday:

"I find myself thinking about you less and less... . how long does it take for you to completely evacuate my brain? It's been such a bizarre and confusing experience... . having your heart so shattered by someone, and without ample time to heal, having another unexpectedly come along and breathe some happiness and hope into your mangled chest. And even though he makes me feel safe and protected in a way I've never known before, his muscle and might and love are a feeble match for the fleeting thoughts and memories that cause me so much sadness and anger, courtesy of my ass brain."

I didn't respond at all, and an hour later she messaged saying, "Sorry. Just had to vent. I'll drop you a text in a couple days when I'm coming by to pick up my stuff. I'll drop off whatever I have of yours then too."

I didn't respond to that either, and we're back to blessed silence for the time being.  She was supposed to come pick up her stuff off the porch while I was at work today, but I guess she's decided she doesn't want to let go of the one thing that she knows I feel obliged to respond to her about.  I'm giving her till the end of the week. After that I'm texting her that her stuff is going on the front porch and she should come get it before it gets rained on or stolen. 

Is it random crazy text week in BPD land this week? 

[causticdork]

I swear our exes are all part of some BPD hive mind or something.  After very limited contact for the past few weeks (mostly involving a few things she left in my garage that she wanted to pick up) I got the following series of texts completely out of nowhere yesterday:

"I find myself thinking about you less and less... . how long does it take for you to completely evacuate my brain? It's been such a bizarre and confusing experience... . having your heart so shattered by someone, and without ample time to heal, having another unexpectedly come along and breathe some happiness and hope into your mangled chest. And even though he makes me feel safe and protected in a way I've never known before, his muscle and might and love are a feeble match for the fleeting thoughts and memories that cause me so much sadness and anger, courtesy of my ass brain."

I didn't respond at all, and an hour later she messaged saying, "Sorry. Just had to vent. I'll drop you a text in a couple days when I'm coming by to pick up my stuff. I'll drop off whatever I have of yours then too."

I didn't respond to that either, and we're back to blessed silence for the time being.  She was supposed to come pick up her stuff off the porch while I was at work today, but I guess she's decided she doesn't want to let go of the one thing that she knows I feel obliged to respond to her about.  I'm giving her till the end of the week. After that I'm texting her that her stuff is going on the front porch and she should come get it before it gets rained on or stolen. 

Is it random crazy text week in BPD land this week? 

[Lucky Jim]

Hey causticdork, To be honest, I think this is all pretty typical stuff from a pwBPD.  My prediction is that she will try to orchestrate a time to drop off/pick up stuff when you are there, so be prepared.  Those w/BPD crave drama, in my view, and will rarely go along with something as simple as picking up her stuff when you're not there.  Be careful and keep good boundaries, because pwBPD are boundary-busters, as you are probably aware.  Lucky Jim

[causticdork]

I fully expect her to try and see me when she picks up her stuff.  Either she'll be running late and just HAVE to come by after I get off work or she'll wait until my day off.  My roommate knows what's up and I told him to just not answer the door if she knocks when she comes by.  I'm expecting to receive a text about how she just needs to use the bathroom or her car's overheating and can she just grab some water to pour in the radiator or something along those lines.  Nothing's ever simple with her. 

[Lucky Jim]

Causticdork, Good.  Sounds like you are ready.  Forewarned is forearmed.  I think she will make up an excuse to see you, along the lines that you describe.  No, it's never simple with a pw/BPD and they enjoy being difficult, in my view.  Hang in there, Lucky Jim

[babyducks]

Having your heart shattered blah blah blah in your managled chest... .

Oh my goodness.  I am actually sitting here shaking my head.  Who talks like this?

Yeah I get it.  A person with a serious mental disorder.

But still,  really? 

Delete,  delete, delete.

[Lao Tzu]

Dear CausticDork,

     Wow, excellent approach to a very common, but very difficult situation that most of us screw up pretty well. I'm very impressed!

LT

[causticdork]

The part that made me giggle the most was when she talked about his, "Muscle and might."  I've seen a picture of the kid and he's like 90 pounds soaking wet.  I'm a small girl and I'm pretty sure I could take him in a fight. 

That whole part of it was because she used to guilt me about not making her feel safe when she was upset.  Granted, that's because when I tried she'd push me away and leave.  If I followed she'd escalate her anger until it became a shouting match about how I don't listen to her.  If I let her leave I'd get a dozen scathing texts about how it was obvious I didn't really care and was glad to be rid of her because I didn't even try to stop her from leaving. Back when we were still together it was an issue I was always trying to work on. I'd ask her how I could do more to comfort her, because I felt like everything I did was wrong.  Back when I still cared what she thought of me, she knew that was a hot button issue and an easy way to hurt my feelings.  She's trying to provoke/hurt me.   

[causticdork]

Dear CausticDork,

     Wow, excellent approach to a very common, but very difficult situation that most of us screw up pretty well. I'm very impressed!

LT

Well thank you.  I would make a lot more stupid mistakes if it weren't for this board and the wise people (such as yourself) that populate it.  Hopefully she'll be moving away soon and I won't have to worry about her showing up on my doorstep if I don't respond to her texts. 

[Moonie75]

Dork, (feels weird addressing somebody as that  )

I went to hell & back getting my ex to pick up her stuff. I did eventually, as you mention doing, give her an ultimatum. Told her if she failed to turn up for her stuff on next arranged day & time, that i'd just leave it outside for anyone to take.  It worked & while she was here I batted off any attempt she made to talk about anything other than her belongings. Once the exchange was over I told her to leave & expressed very clearly that she now had no need to contact me again, & if she chose to there would be no reply.

She said "what if somebody's died?"  (an odd retort I thought).

I replied "If somebody's dies you call an undertaker don't you. I'm a car body panel beater, I do car bodies not dead bodies!"

She left quickly & peace bestowed my gaff once again.