ex BPD going off in left field about wife

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I think I just read further up the thread where DreamGirl said her pwBPD is a real boundary buster. That seems to be what they do, there's not a real clear sense for them of where they end and you begin. So you end up being the one who has to have clear boundaries and know ahead of time what's acceptable and what's not so you don't get pulled in.

Have you read through this workshop yet about boundaries? BOUNDARIES: Upholding our values and independence I went through it once but I've thought of some new things since then, so I want to go over it again as I realize new things about what I value.

BPD--the gift that keeps on giving!

Keep us posted.

[DreamFlyer99]

I think I just read further up the thread where DreamGirl said her pwBPD is a real boundary buster. That seems to be what they do, there's not a real clear sense for them of where they end and you begin. So you end up being the one who has to have clear boundaries and know ahead of time what's acceptable and what's not so you don't get pulled in.

Have you read through this workshop yet about boundaries? BOUNDARIES: Upholding our values and independence I went through it once but I've thought of some new things since then, so I want to go over it again as I realize new things about what I value.

BPD--the gift that keeps on giving!

Keep us posted.

[whippled]

Ive read through it. I started looking at counselors.  Its getting to that point.  She called and wanted to know if my son wanted to go somewhere after his game tomorrow and he did which makes my wife mad cause she had something planned.  Which last I heard she wasnt sure she was going.   I dont see an issue but the wife has had enough of her plus, even though he lives me, it wasnt her weekend.   I work weekends though so I dont see him until I get home anyway. 

[whippled]

Well my son did say something to my wife tonight abiut his brother telling him to keep an eye on his mom cause he thinks shes taking his adhd meds. Plus she told my son that some woman at work was stealing her pills and her money. He also said he woke up and she was messing with pills.  For one when we were together she had a pain pill addiction but in 2010 she was charged with possession and theft of one of her kids adhd meds.  Since that racked  up her 12 or so felonies in 2 years im a little uneasy about this. I know she on supervised probation and claimed they had her on adhd meds plus she blamed taking the fall for her ex on the last charges.  Im not saying he wasnt involved but I know her and she wouldnt take the charge willingly.  Im unsure if I should email thr deputy probation officer and make him aware anonymously or what.  I dont have an address for her at this time so I cant just send the police plus from what my son says shes not there alot.  If shes doing this again its a major issue and would explain her moods lately.  She should have 4 years or so left on her probation and I think its still in the originating county but I know she wanted it moved at one point.  She dies reside in the originating county again now though.  Any ideas?  I really dont want my son involved in it. I also dont need this happening around him again. Last time she was arrested while he was there. that would be the 3rd time I believe since 08. 

[ForeverDad]

If she's on probation then the legal system should always have her address, shouldn't it?  If so, then you shouldn't hesitate based on not knowing her address.  Besides, as the other parent shouldn't you have it too?

[whippled]

Yep I should. Shes had mine numerous times but claims she doesnt know it.  Issue is she has moved that much.  Im just wondering if I contact cps or just email or call the probation department.   Unfortunately ive watched her get off pretty easy for all the felonies she has.  However after my dons game I'm pretty sure shes on something again.  I mean she worked third shift , came to his game at 1045, and was sending texts going off at from 1215-345.  Pretty sure shes hyped up on something again.  My son even mentions it.  Probably didnt help he told her hes not going to let her treat him like a baby anymore cause hes not a baby.  Yeah she thinks one of us put that in his head plus we realized shes been breaking into my wifes facebook.  Its gone too far and trusy me boundaries mean zero to her.  Theres no way to explain anything to her.  Eventful day. 

[ForeverDad]

She's had mine numerous times but claims she doesn't know it... .  There's no way to explain anything to her.

Believe it or not, in recent weeks I've made virtually the same comments about my ex.  Not her address but my home phone number.  Over the years I've told her my phone number, she's called it a couple times and I've even mailed and emailed it to her, yet she recently asked for my number.  Oh, and I'm in the phone book.

I haven't been able to explain anything to her either, no one's listening.

[whippled]

Yep.  She blows up over nothing and keeps going and going even when no one responds to her.  Its at the point its overtaxing my outside life.  It was better when she was locked up.