Not sure how to explain this or if Im using the correct words here, but, most of my
life, I have taken people at face value and been too trusting, not really questioning
them and basically accepted alot of crappy behaviour, even when, deep down, I knew
they were being disrespectful to me.
Probably because I did not have much in the way of self esteem? Especially regarding
romantic r/s's, what is and is not acceptable.
Call me slow, I did encounter some learning difficulties during school, Im not sure, but
when I eventually GET IT, I GET IT, if that makes sense?
I have accepted that the exbf was just mirroring me. There was no real love on his part.
He appeared loving, only because that is what I gave him. I love and care very deeply.
Sorry, I am not blowing my own trumpet here. All this has just hit me today.
Its a revelation
In my next r/s, I will avoid someone if they tell me they love too early on.
I do not want someone who is materialistic or a bully to me or my children.
Who hides me from his family and friends and is not ashamed to be seen with me.
Is not passive-aggressive and witholding physical affection.
I do not want to have to make an appointment to visit or see them.
I will not put up with anyone who show a complete disregard to my family.
They must be kind to my animals.
I do not want anyone who wants to have sex with other women while in a r/s with me.
And I will not tolerate a guy who has multiple accounts on dating websites.
The exbf exhibited all of the above all the time I was with him, and I am furious with
myself for putting up with it all.
