Does he just expect me to be ok?

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After my husbands meltdown on Monday, see leaving board, 'he wrecked the house' he was ok from Wednesday onwards, I didn't mention it just kept neutral and non confrontational.

On Thursday he seemed in a good mood in the morning and kissed me goodbye when he went out.  Later that afternoon when I asked what he wanted for tea he blew up at me.  I asked why and he said he can't forget all the horrible things I have said?   This came out of nowhere, not seen him since, he is sleeping in the spare room, going out when I am in and only coming back once I've gone to bed.  He hasn't tried to make contact and I haven't either, so my question is, when he does finally come round how do I deal with it?  Does he just expect me to be ok, be friendly, act like nothing's happened even though he cuts me out of his life for days on end.

To be honest I usually do the apologising and contact because I am trying to get us back on track but this time feels different, he flipped for no reason whatsoever, made me the enemy.  I won't contact him first, he is out tonight and to be honest I don't expect him to come home, I think he will stay at a mates because he knows it bothers me but again this time I don't care, won't text or ring.

I'm really not ok with how he treats me, he is completely delusional and sees me as a bad person when I'm not.  I am off work next week and have loads booked in to do without him. 

Arrgghhhhhh confused !

[Sadsue]

After my husbands meltdown on Monday, see leaving board, 'he wrecked the house' he was ok from Wednesday onwards, I didn't mention it just kept neutral and non confrontational.

On Thursday he seemed in a good mood in the morning and kissed me goodbye when he went out.  Later that afternoon when I asked what he wanted for tea he blew up at me.  I asked why and he said he can't forget all the horrible things I have said?   This came out of nowhere, not seen him since, he is sleeping in the spare room, going out when I am in and only coming back once I've gone to bed.  He hasn't tried to make contact and I haven't either, so my question is, when he does finally come round how do I deal with it?  Does he just expect me to be ok, be friendly, act like nothing's happened even though he cuts me out of his life for days on end.

To be honest I usually do the apologising and contact because I am trying to get us back on track but this time feels different, he flipped for no reason whatsoever, made me the enemy.  I won't contact him first, he is out tonight and to be honest I don't expect him to come home, I think he will stay at a mates because he knows it bothers me but again this time I don't care, won't text or ring.

I'm really not ok with how he treats me, he is completely delusional and sees me as a bad person when I'm not.  I am off work next week and have loads booked in to do without him. 

Arrgghhhhhh confused !

[Washisheart]

Yes, he does. Unfortunately. I am on mine's hitlist right now too unfortunately. And (if) when he comes around he will act like nothing ever happened. This time is different for me too. I feel like I am carrying a load of bricks on my chest. I am just not happy. Not happy that he can say the things he says to me and think nothing of it. Unhappy that even though he is the man he wants me to take care of him. Unhappy he can act like I don't mean anything and he doesn't want to do anything or hang out together right now. I snagged my ring and it now needs repairs and I haven't even mentioned fixing it lately.

What I have started doing is making plans to go visit a friend in another state and if I like it up there, I might be moving next year. I told him the other day I need a man who lifts me up not drags me down and he told me to go find one because it ain't him. I just can't deal with not meaning anything to him anymore