The Bloomin Weekend

[Moonie75]

Does it sound shallow or sad that really all I want right now is a proper hug, just to feel someone close to me, it is the lonliness that gets me, guess i gotta learn to loe myself before anyone else can. Im trying so hard to learn the right way out of this madness :-)  But also proud at 27 days NC when  I honestly couldnt see me doing 3 days, goes to show im stronger than i thought huh

NO. That doesn't sound shallow at all. It sounds very honest & perfectly reasonable healthy emotion!

Nobody here to hug me either. I was thinking of getting a basset hound puppy. Always wanted one & what better time could there be to get a dog that always looks like no matter what's happening, his day's worse than yours!

I never thought I'd survive NC either, just like you. I too have been surprised at managing to maintain it. Also surprised at how much good it's done. I know we feel we go so many steps forward then some steps back. But NC does seem to make the forwards steps bigger & the steps back smaller.

I hope NC is doing you just as much good?

[Clearmind]

We go through a period of transitioning when we separate from our partners. When you think of what you miss, think of one thing you won't miss.

[blurry]

imj, the one breakup during this relationship where not only was I convinced she wasn't coming back, plus time had elapsed, was back in the winter, and it took me a good 40 days NC to start feeling a little better, meeting a nice woman helped a lot too. I guess I can't say I was over her, because as soon as she broke NC, I dropped a woman ten times better than her, like a bad habit, and went running back like an abused starved dog who still loves the owner who's responsible for the abuse.

Just seem to remember I was finally feeling better and it had started to fade around the 6 week mark, obviously I wasn't fully there but it seemed like a turning point. I'm at day 9 now, long way to go. Oh, every time she dumps me, it costs me a job too, so I'm always unemployed following a breakup (looking for my 6th new job this year, as we speak) and I know starting a new job helps keep my mind occupied.

So I'm here back at moms now, no friends, job, money or car, and lost my wife. But I know as I replace these things back into my life, along with time passing, it'll get better. Hope this helps somewhat.