Book

[Fay]

A quick note... .I am going to late for work.  Can't stop reading.

Thank you so much for recommending the book Overcoming BPD. 

I am so grateful... .It has helped me already. 

It is refreshing to know how much things have changed in the past 10 years. 

One line I remember saying to the my dd psych 15 years ago.  YOU see her 1 hour a week.  I am with her the rest of the time.  What do I do?  I was so desperate at the time.  He shrugged... .

I want to hug Valerie Porr... .

Instead I will hug all of you... .

Fay

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[vivekananda]

so glad Fay   

She writes with warmth and compassion. I understand she is a very giving person, a model for us to emulate eh?

Vivek    

[Fay]

Yes Vivek  so much to learn.  I know I had a hard time re-adjusting. I can only imagine what it must've felt like for her.  On my drive home last night I cried.  I had wanted to re-unite with my dd for years.  I set an intention for her every night before I went to bed, that she is loved.

When she moved in  I was filled with wishful thinking it would all be perfect. We would go to therapy, we would blah blah... .  SCREEECH... .FULL STOP!   

We have a lot of healing to do... .Slow, steady... .healing.

When I got home to my surprise she went grocery shopping and bought me flowers.  Thanked me for everything... . 

Thank you for the loving words and never giving up on the stupidity of me being a newbies. 

 

Back to the book... .

Fay

[heronbird]

 

Yeah! that book transformed our lives and helped my relationship with dd.

It said all the things I knew already, it validated me, which was an amazing experience. But best of all, taught me such brilliant tools.

I love the compassion in the book.

Happy reading  

[vivekananda]

Thank you for the loving words and never giving up on the stupidity of me being a newbies. 

all of us here have been 'stupid newbies'    - I had never heard of BPD until just before I came here   ... .and my life is so different now, phew! 

When you've finished the book, come back and add to the discussions, ok? That's a really good way to keep on learning.

Vivek