six months apart 22 days n/c and i took a chance today

[simplyasiam]

time is starting to heel me ive been dating someone for a couple weeks. things seem to be going well with her. im at day 22 of n/c with exBPDg/f well n/c on my part shes left a few messages about one a week had to blocked calls today that left long dead air vmails but cant be sure who they were from. ive replied to none ofe them in 22 days so i quess thats still n/c.

ive kept most everything about myself off f/b or anywhere ex could find out about me, before today. today i posted pics of myself and new g/f on f/b. i didnt post them to get a reaction from ex in anyway but im done hiding from her. my Tdoc family and friends seem to think she may react badlie to seeing that i have moved on and can be happy with someone new but im not sure. she/ex knows im dating has never really said much about it.

i will have to say im a little worried she may try and drag me in again but i think im to a point i can handle it... .lets hope.

[eeyore]

hopefully there will be no repercussions.  I wish you happiness.

[Yolo]

I too wish you the best, you deserve it and so does this great gal that has so much promise!

Simply, you are moving on with your life, your ex should be of little concern right now.  You should do whatever makes you happy. If she snoops, she is taking a risk (just as we do when we let curiosity take over, that is on us).

I do know our ex's can be volitile.  Unless you are afraid she will cause trouble by reaching out to your new love interest and meddle there... you really have a lot of control as far as the impact of any of her moves.

She is your ex.  You are moving on.  Your lives are now seperate. Your only concern right now should be with your life, not what the ex is thinking or feeling.  If you find yourself still wallowing around in that, you do have some work to do on detachment.

I hope you are able to pour your attention into getting to know this new person, and feeling safe enough to feel a real connection with her.  You will only be available to the new girl if you free yourself from the connection with your EX.  Otherwise, you are emotionally unavailable and it isn't entirely fair to this awesome new chickadee... .if you catch my drift

Wishing the best and the least amount of drama possible