Breaking NC

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I'm just going through it now. I'm hoping she goes on forever thinking I'm a psycho and worst human being on Earth and never breaks it.

[willbegood]

I'm just going through it now. I'm hoping she goes on forever thinking I'm a psycho and worst human being on Earth and never breaks it.

[hurtbyboderline]

My advice if you really want to break it off is NC (No Contact). Block her texts, phone calls, e-mail, Facebook, etc. And even then, good luck. Move if you have to. Change jobs if you can... The times I've broken it off with my BPDGF she just won't stop trying to get back together. Stops by the house & won't leave. 100 of calls & texts a day. Oh, you asked what they use to get back with you? SEX... .And lots of promises, basically they say whatever they thing you want to hear (mine has even admitted this). Mine also uses this as an excuse to justify lying; "I thought that's what you'd want to hear"... .Anyway, NC if your serious... .  zzz

[imstronghere2]

If they are truly BPD and become very desperate, attempts at suicide are not out of the question.  That was the last trick my exwBPD tried before she finally gave up.  Until the next time which is what I will always be on alert for.

[StandUpGuy]

Well now she's threatening to post naked pictures of ME online if I don't respond.  I still haven't responded.  Hoping her "mood" shifts to a less vindictive one before that happens. 

[eeyore]

Well now she's threatening to post naked pictures of ME online if I don't respond.  I still haven't responded.  Hoping her "mood" shifts to a less vindictive one before that happens. 

If it were me I'd call the bluff.  But I have never let anyone take naked pictures of me so I know it would just be a threat. 

[Holliday]

In the heat of it, I never looked at is as trickery... now I see it, plain as day...

- FB contact daily with quotes and msgs that would melt my heart

- changing his own FB profile pic to one of us with a "Love of my life" comment on public view... after I deleted him from my friends

- drive bys honking at all hours

- massive strings of texts and phone calls... of which I have changed my number 2x's now

- texted pics of his self harm in the midst of it

- phone calls while he is drifting out of consciousness from a suicide attempt & I yell at him to call the crisis line

- voicemails of our favourite songs or really sad or angry songs.

- demanding naked pics

- getting in physical fights with others "because he loves me so much"

- rooting through my personal things for amo he could hold over my head later like old nostalgia from past relationships

- coincidental meetings at places he knew I would be

-  last recycle he bought me a diamond ring and holds that over my head now...

I needed to write this list. How insane is this... it all comes down to NC has to be true NC with putting your safety first with precautions... all ties have to be gone and you can't look back...

now I need to take my own advice...

[Holliday]

... oh I also forgot leaving love notes or broken things from our "happier times" in my mailbox...

*shakes head in shame*

[Ironmanrises]

They arent tricks... .

It may appear that way to us nons... .

But you are dealing with a disordered person... .

Thus disordered actions.

It sucks.

I know.

It hurts.

I know that too.

To heal... .

First step... .

Radical acceptance.

Stay strong.

[willbegood]

They arent tricks... .

It may appear that way to us nons... .

But you are dealing with a disordered person... .

Thus disordered actions.

It sucks.

I know.

It hurts.

I know that too.

To heal... .

First step... .

Radical acceptance.

Stay strong.

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