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i just wonder how long she will keep trying with no reply
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ive not contacted exBPDg/f or repied to her messages in 25 today, 30 days is the longest ive ever made it.
i told her 26 days ago it was not right for us to talk to each other as we are both seeing other ppl. she repied (your right ill not bother you anymore). as the days go by her contact comes more and more often. the frist few time she just said she hope im doing well and wouldnt contact anymore. got that message atleast five times. got one when she was crying saying she was having a had time needed to talk. today she fired the big guns! messaged said same thing has before but she added in alot of stuff about her kids and how they are doing. i met the kids when they were 1 and 6 that was just over 6 years ago. i rasied them as my own we loved eachother to no end. ex know that will get to me and it did i cried for 20 min thinking of my babies.
i know i could block her totaly out of my life but i want her to know im the one SOB on this earth that can walk away from her that she cant control for ever. it wears me down at times being strong but im going to do it.
i just wonder how long she will keep trying with no reply. wonder what the lack of reaction or reply from me makes her think/feel?
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That is definitely unfair for her to bring up her kids. Sorry to hear you are being put through the wringer by that, any caring person would. It's good you cried, it's good to express your emotions, they will always come out eventually and crying is a HEALTHY way to express what you're feeling.
Keep moving forward and you will wonder less and less what she is feeling and be more and more in tune with yourself. Hang in there simplyasiam.
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i just wonder how long she will keep trying with no reply. wonder what the lack of reaction or reply from me makes her think/feel?[/quote]
My ex went for a over a couple of years with no reply. Then, I only replied with a few words of warning and sympathy because I thought she was dying. She keeps on trying every few months after about 2 more years of no reply. In some cases, this could go on for years if you don't block them. They want you to reply, no matter how short, to put a bandaid on their abandonment fears, even knowing your done. *shaking my head*
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