surprised by how little it takes to patch thier ego

[simplyasiam]

after a month of refusing contact i gave a simply reply asking what she wanted to talk about. her answer was... .just to tell you thanks for all you do for me and always being here for me and your a great guy you should be with someone better than me... .i gave no reply to this!

strage (to me anyway) that she wrote it in present tense(we have been apart for six months) and that after all the messages over the last month a simply reply and shes stoped contacting again.

[FogLight]

You can't know for sure that her ego was "patched" with that.  Maybe she didn't get the reply she was fishing for and she's trying to save some face by not trying too hard for fear that she'll appear to be pursuing you AND get rejected, made to feel even worse.  My BPDexgf played this game too, or tried to.

Don't worry about how she took it, better to stick with NC.  However, if you just CAN'T resist responding, don't give her too much... .You'll get rejected, feel used, burnt, and suffer a setback.  Also she'll likely continue to contact you for her ego fix as long as you give in.

[simplyasiam]

hello foglight and thank you for your view point on this. im not worried about how she took it.

i have my life stable and im at a point that im starting to be happy with myself.

i still have some parts of the ex r/s to work out in my mind but im getting there.

in someways her contact lets me see the truth and work these things out, as i see now nothing has changed with her.