Mind Boggled

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

So I did it again, broke NC... .I have to stop sticking my hand in the fire.

I sent a text in the middle of the night on Friday. I had a feeling something was wrong. Asked if she was OK. Turns out she was at her sister's house. She had been fighting with the replacement.

She moved in with the replacement immediately after I made her leave. About a month after she was living there she found out this other woman that also lives there, who the replacement calls his sister, is actually his other GF. The other woman told my ex that the replacement has HIV.

The conversation went from negative to her asking me to meet her. She said she was leaving him and wanted me to take the dog. I asked her if she wanted me to get her a room. She said she wouldn't sleep with me because she "really might have HIV." I didn't go and meet her. The next morning she went back.

I am at a loss. Yesterday and today have been difficult. This illness is heart-retching... .

[papawapa]

So I did it again, broke NC... .I have to stop sticking my hand in the fire.

I sent a text in the middle of the night on Friday. I had a feeling something was wrong. Asked if she was OK. Turns out she was at her sister's house. She had been fighting with the replacement.

She moved in with the replacement immediately after I made her leave. About a month after she was living there she found out this other woman that also lives there, who the replacement calls his sister, is actually his other GF. The other woman told my ex that the replacement has HIV.

The conversation went from negative to her asking me to meet her. She said she was leaving him and wanted me to take the dog. I asked her if she wanted me to get her a room. She said she wouldn't sleep with me because she "really might have HIV." I didn't go and meet her. The next morning she went back.

I am at a loss. Yesterday and today have been difficult. This illness is heart-retching... .

[GreenMango]

Papawapa it sounds like you guys you are dancing here.  A lot of turmoil happens when we let the other person lead.

Have you given some thought to what you want for your future?