Can I just say that...

[houseofswans]

I'm so glad I found this support forum.

It's so good to know that there are people "out there", who really understand, not only what I'm going through, but others as well.

Trying to talk to family and friends about ending a relationship with a BPD - well, I may as well bang my head against a wall, because although they appear sympathetic and genuinely try to understand the utter devastation a non is trying to comprehend and deal with - not to put too fine a point on it, they can't!

I feel that you are my friends, and I can talk about and ask any questions that I will have - without worrying.

And that is good to know, because I'm so isolated at the moment. I live alone with only myself to talk to - and I'm constantly trying to bring some semblance of order into this wreckage of mind and body.

Love and light to you all

x

[Lucky Jim]

Hi HOS, Agree, without having been through the wringer of a BPD r/s, it's hard for anyone to understand the challenges of BPD because the issues are so far beyond anything most have ever experienced.  Yet here on this Board, we really "get it" when it come to BPD!  Post more when you feel like sharing.

Lucky Jim

[houseofswans]

Thanks for that, Lucky Jim - I'm glad that you at least appreciate what I have said 

[Bananas]

  HOS 

I agree with what you wrote.  In many ways I feel like this forum has saved my life.  I live alone too and although I have family close by they just don't get it.  I hope you will keep reading and posting, it really does help!

We are here for you!   

-Bananas

[Reg]

Houseofswans,

Good to see you found your way to this part of the forum.

I know exactly what you mean, I've been there myself, quite alone in the situation, living alone, and trying to understand what happened.  Finding this site was a good thing for me as well.

It is indeed a fact that very little people understand what BPD is all about and how toxic the situation can become for the partner or ex partner.  I have a few friends who understand it quite good, but most of the people react with : oh borderline ? WOW !  If you ask them if they really know what it is, they have to say they actually have no idea, even medical staff from the retirement home of my mom !

Reg

[houseofswans]

Thanks to you all 

[Accepting]

I agree. I think that for people who've not yet come into contact with BPD or similar it can be a very alienating experience. Confusing... baffling. A site like this is a great resource and source of support.

I posted my story on this board yesterday under the link 'Thank you'. It is long, sorry... .but I decided it was perhaps timely to be open about my experience after all and that doing so might help someone else out there to relate - just the way your stories have for me.