Need to confront - tired of manipulation and lies... is this my out?

[wishfulthinking]

Yes, still on the leaving board.  Still "playing nice" until I can get some stuff straight.  Considering my check is going to be a week late because of uBPDh's shennanigans, I'm mixed blessed and cursed right now.

Yesterday's issue: He texts me:

Im short on tile and aomther bucket of mastic mortor. its gonna be bout almost 8O bucks. i cant figue it out on how to get it. i only have one day left then compleatly done. i wanted to be done today but ran short. dont leave your husband hanging if you can help. so i can get paid and get the hell out of this job. im not gonna keep asking for help from u plus its your money and not mine. wife       help me please. The only thing i ask is if the answer is no or f*#k me just say no and not lecture me. i dont know who else to ask or what to do. never done tile so i miss figured a little. SORRY 

My reply: 

I have nothing till I get my check.

He responds:

I need toget to Mernards tonight and grab that stuff so i can get there by 7 3OAM after i lay that ill have toget some trim also. just dont know how much yet. and dont ignore me either please

F*#K IT i just erased a long text by accident don+ worry bout it im F*#KED AND ITS HOLDING UP MY G*DD*#N MONEY AS MOTHERF*#KING USUAL and u probaly dont want to help anyways cause ive taken to much of whats urs. Once again sorry for asking my wife for help again.  i do love u

I say:

I answered you, don't be like that to me, please.

He says:

I dont mean any of this to b hateful. im just sick and tired of busting f*#king ass and never getting ahead. and all it does is allow my wife to feel as if im a loser or mootch

I say:

That's not how I feel. I just don't have it to help... .

He says:

Compassion or impathy woman

I say:

I do wish I had it to help. I can bet it's very infuriating. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I love you.

He says:

U should have ur paycheck.  its the second of the month with or without dirrect deposite.  ANYWAYS. see u in a bit

I replied:

They had to print and mail it here. I checked today and it's not here yet.

So, considering my account was closed due to him writing checks that overdrew the account when he was not an authorized signer on the account, I would say he has no right to question when I get my paper check since direct deposit hasn't kicked into my new account yet.  I won't get my check for another few days, I was told today.  My house payment will be late. But I digress... .

I look in his secret drawer that he thinks I never look in and there are his pain killers newly filled... .guess how much those cost... .78.97... .I wonder why he needed that $80 so desperately he had to freak out... .couldn't get his fix fast enough?  Don't know how he got the money, but I'm livid.  He was lying to get his script and I'm tired of him using and manipulating me.  I want to tell him I know, but I know it'll be a fight, I need the best way to approach because I'm not letting this go after he screwed me so bad last week.

Sorry for the language of his text, I edited the f-bombs but wanted to stay honest to the conversation.

[Surnia]

A very strange dialog!

May I ask you, lost, what are your intentions to confront him with his lies?

[Lady31]

Lost... .

Oh my goodness! This type of dialog is exactly what I would experience with my exh! So weird. We owned a business together for a type of trade/service. I also STRONGLY suspected (and some confirmations) that he was abusing pain pills.

After a couple years in the craziness I started journaling all the texts, emails, etc. I'm out of town right now, if I wasn't I would add a couple just so u could see. Crazy!

Mine even pawned equipment n said they got stolen by guys that worked for us or off job sites so he'd have cash I didnt know about to buy pills. thats what he would tell me as the reason he bought new equipment... .then I found the pawn receipts! Others weren't stealing from us, he was!

SO many shady things I found out later. Ugh. MAJOR manipulators, I hear you. When I finally started figuring things out, thats when mine got way more abusive and it turned physical. Of course I was the crazy one, blah blah blah. When they are exposed they can really lose it. Be careful if you confront.

[wishfulthinking]

Lady 31,

The tools and equipment... .ditto. He blames his workers but I know better. I stopped replacing his stuff. I wish I could find the receipts... .