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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: October 02, 2013, 04:44:51 PM »

today was another good day. Didnt see the ex. we worked in the same area so she is always bumping into me. No, phone calls. and no texts. Ihavent heard anything from her since last friday when she told me she didnt love me anymore, not like she did. and then said if would make me get over us better she would say that.  But right now I feel like im in a a relly good place. I going to dinner with a friend tonight. I met a lady that Im just talking to. Nothing more. yes, It is fast but at the same time I have been through this crap with her exBPD for 2 years. Im ready for peace. I ready for new friends.

I still have moments of sadness and i still have moment of anger. But Im trying my best.
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« Reply #1 on: October 02, 2013, 05:21:46 PM »

Good for you mitchell16!   Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)  Enjoy your time out tonight.  Peace is a beautiful thing. 
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« Reply #2 on: October 02, 2013, 09:33:13 PM »

today was another good day. Didnt see the ex. we worked in the same area so she is always bumping into me. No, phone calls. and no texts. Ihavent heard anything from her since last friday when she told me she didnt love me anymore, not like she did. and then said if would make me get over us better she would say that.  But right now I feel like im in a a relly good place. I going to dinner with a friend tonight. I met a lady that Im just talking to. Nothing more. yes, It is fast but at the same time I have been through this crap with her exBPD for 2 years. Im ready for peace. I ready for new friends.

I still have moments of sadness and i still have moment of anger. But Im trying my best.

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A good starting point.  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

A good ending point.  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

Keep attaching one good day of NC next to another... .

And soon enough... .

You will have a string of them... .

With you being able to slowly heal... .

Within its protective shield.

Hang in there Mitchell.
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« Reply #3 on: October 03, 2013, 08:18:49 AM »

its almost like they have a some sort of weird sense about us non. I went out with freind last night. Was havnig a nice dinner, good conversation and out of now where I get a text from me exBPDgf. her text wa stelling me just how much she missed us and how she was mourning was just very sad about everything. She hoped I was doing well and she didnt know how I felt at that moment. But she was just thinking about everything we had did and everything we had talked about doing. and she was just doing the best she could and cant understand why we just cant get it right. I didnt repsond to her. I wont lie and say it did make me almost cave in. But i remember where was the love words last week when she told me she didnt love me anymore and all she wanted was peace. How we had to stop the insanity. where was the words when she came  to my house drunk and hd sex with me and told me how much she loved me, then left and told me she felt so bad about that she left to go on vaction an ddidnt hear a peep out of her for 7 days. Not even a text to see how I was doing while she was vacation knowing she ripped my heart out again.

so I didnt respond to it. It did mess up the rest of my night and it broke my heart. But her words are just words no action behind them.
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