BPD's telling tatoo

[fromheeltoheal]

By BPD ex got a tattoo of a quote she considered very significant, important enough to permanently emblazon on her back.

It went: “If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, then what am I?”

Pretty famous quote, didn't mean much to me at the time, although she made sure to tell me she got topless in front of 3 or 4 tattoo guys and they enjoyed it.  But now that I've learned a bunch about the attachment nature of the disorder and the way a BPD thinks, her motivation has become clearer and the tattoo more telling.

Any other body art that raised an eyebrow or two?

[redbaron5]

Yes, She had an old Navypinup art tattoo of a shark with human legs that said "ManEater" underneath it. Should have payed attention. Must truthful thing about her.

[Accepting]

I'm very well aware that overlooking his tattoo was like overlooking the biggest red flag of all... .but I did think it was done during a period of grief... and that somehow justified the peace of mind he'd have been in to get it done.

"Save me from Myself"

in large calligraphy across his lower back.

It was hard for me when family were negative about him and mum said it should say "Save you from myself".

[eyvindr]

It was hard for me when family were negative about him and mum said it should say "Save you from myself".

Go mum! 

[Accepting]

It was hard for me when family were negative about him and mum said it should say "Save you from myself".

Go mum! 

Lol mum would laugh at that.

Yes it's quite amazing when you've never before been aware of the traits of BPD or similar, just how many niggling little things you overlook or excuse. I often thought it was all caused by his divorce and grief but mum said a few times, what if these problems occurred much longer than in his recent past. It's been a pretty heavy roller coaster ride to be on... .I would describe it as bittersweet. I'm still sad for him. I'm hoping I've been taken for the last ride and can really stick to letting go now and moving on.

[recoil]

My ex had "Possibly Maybe" on her side. 

Lyrics:

Your flirt finds me out

Teases the crack in me

Smittens me with hope

Possibly maybe, possibly maybe, possibly maybe

As much as I definitely enjoy solitude

I wouldn't mind perhaps

Spending little time with you

Sometimes, sometimes

Possibly maybe probably love

Possibly maybe probably love

Uncertainty excites me

Baby

Who knows what's going to happen?

Lottery or car crash

Or you'll join a cult

Probably maybe, possibly love

Probably maybe, possibly love

Possibly

Mon petit vulcan

You're eruptions and disasters

I keep calm

Admiring your lava

I keep calm

Possibly maybe probably love

Possibly maybe probably love

Electric shocks

I love them

With you dozen a day

But after a while I wonder

Where's that love you promised me?

Where is it?

Possibly maybe probably love

Possibly maybe probably love

How can you offer me love like that?

My heart's burned

How can you offer me love like that?

I'm exhausted

Leave me alone

Possibly maybe, possibly maybe, possibly maybe

Since we broke up

I'm using lipstick again

I suck my tongue

In remembrance of you

Possibly maybe, possibly maybe

Possibly maybe, possibly maybe

Possibly maybe, possibly maybe

[happylogist]

His dream tatoo: a cross between the Chartres Cathedral Labyrinth and a Buddhist Mandala on his chest... .No idea whether it is a red flag

[strikeforce]

My name on her thigh

[AliveButBeatup]

Yes, She had an old Navypinup art tattoo of a shark with human legs that said "ManEater" underneath it. Should have payed attention. Must truthful thing about her.

Great stuff. I openly laughed when reading that.

ABB

[eyvindr]

Dunno if that's a red flag... .but it sounds pretty busy... . 

His dream tatoo: a cross between the Chartres Cathedral Labyrinth and a Buddhist Mandala on his chest... .No idea whether it is a red flag