what is wrong with my husband?

[lovespopcorns78]

my husband has always been kind of a cranky guy never seems happy but the biggest problem while our kids were growing up he would go into rages if we were unloading the boat into the lake going camping go through the roof... we all just try to stay away from him as he is swearing and saying things outloud... we just didnt know when he was going to blow family come to visit... .so mean to his parents they are so kind... .  am I just blaming him i know i may not see things clearly with this disease...   always said things to hurt our feelings has no friends, had multiple affairs, now his rages are getting physical screams throws stuff ... .I was just diagnosed with high function BPD grew up in a very abusive home... so am i just used to this behavior is he normal now he blames me for his depression and points out all my imperfections is this something or just my BPD distorting everything going to talk to my T next week do i sound weird i dont have rages and anger issues like that so I am confused?

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