This Is How It Started Last Time

[UmbrellaBoy]

After 9 weeks, the "sign" that I had been somewhat expecting occurred: I got a visit to my blog that seemed to very possibly be from the ex based on IP information.

That's how it started last time, I started noticing sentimental little visits to pasts posts of mine he liked, not too often, but every couple weeks until we got back in touch.

Don't really know what to think... .

[Lady31]

Don't think anything.  Don't watch for it.  I remember reading some of your posts Umbrella - let this guy go.  He is VERY sick.

In the mean time do everything you can to get to a place where you aren't waiting for him to come back.  I want to see you out of that hell.  You will not change it, he will not change it.  Any life with him will be pure hell.  And the more and more you take - the more he will escalate in his behavior because he knows he can get away with it.  If you think it's been bad so far - well, you have no idea what the next round would be like if you let it.  And trust me - this guy thinks he can get you back around again when he needs you to help boost him up/ward of his loneliness/help soothe him.  Here's the thing you need to get - he is SO SICK and he NEEDS someone to help him in that dark place.  HE WILL NOT BE ABLE TO HELP HIMSELF.  So, since he can't help reaching out to pull someone under the water so he can go up for air AND he knows all the crap he got by with you before - I would bet 98.5% he WILL be reaching out to you again in the future.

THAT IN MY MIND IS NOT REALLY EVEN A QUESTION WITH THIS GUY.  So - if you start viewing things as he WILL be trying to reel me in again, WHAT AM I GOING TO DO WHEN HE DOES - you will be in a much better place.  HE WILL.  WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?

RUN.  Cut him out completely.  Don't watch/wait for him to come back - when he DOES try to come back around - don't even allow a foot in that door.  Love yourself more.  I'm telling you, after I read your posts I really felt for you and your situation.  There are some of the people on here that just touch me.  You are better than that guy.  I'm a tall Italian chic from Texas and I have seen crazy enough to at least IMITATE it well... .if you need some help I have a lot of free flights on Southwest.

RUN LIKE HADES.

[Ironmanrises]

Umbrella... .

You know... .

Based on the previous... .

Re engagements... .

That... .

He will... .

Hurt you again.

You are expecting it... .

Because you know... .

It is a cycle.

A cycle... .

That will come back to... .

Full turn.

Meaning... .

You will get devalued... .

Again.

I know you wish... .

A re engagement... .

Where... .

He gives you... .

That full reassurance... .

That he wont... .

Hurt you again.

He will only say... .

The words... .

You wish to hear... .

And not have them... .

Be lasting.

My ex... .

Did the same to me.

"I wont hurt you again... .

Like i did the first time... ."... .

Is what she told me... .

When i let her back in... .

For round 2.

And what did she do... .?

She hurt me... .

Even more... .

Then round 1.

Try and resist... .

The inbound... .

Re engagement.

It is for your well being.

[bauers220]

I get signs all the time... .not even always from her... .but I have had them.  They come in dreams - usually a "make up" dream just days before an email arrives from her.  There are other things like meeting a woman with her name... .certain songs on the radio.  But the bottom line is this... .I can choose to attach my hopeful energy to those signs or I can choose to attach nothing at all to them and let them go.  Nothing will change because nothing ever has changed.  Until they have received professional help and healing within... .it will be the same.

He's hurt you before, he will again.  Love yourself my friend... .its the only way.