Do you have a sixth sense that they might soon contact you?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

In the last couple of days I have felt a disturbance in the force.

I don't know what it is, but I got a feeling that there is trouble in her new relationship and that she might soon contact me.

Most likely it is just me healing and that I am fearful of how to react if she contacts me.

Anyway... do you have a sixth sense when something is up? (yeah... .I know with BPD/NPD something is ALWAYS up... .but I mean after a longer NC period)

[huhhuh]

In the last couple of days I have felt a disturbance in the force.

I don't know what it is, but I got a feeling that there is trouble in her new relationship and that she might soon contact me.

Most likely it is just me healing and that I am fearful of how to react if she contacts me.

Anyway... do you have a sixth sense when something is up? (yeah... .I know with BPD/NPD something is ALWAYS up... .but I mean after a longer NC period)

[Lady31]

Do you have any inside scoop or did your hear or see something that triggered this as a possibility in your mind?

I have to say I have had this "sense" before with my exh.  I had moved out and had been in serious prayer for him.  I could actually sense with my spirit that something was happening.  Within a week, it did.

[rags_and_feathers]

I sometimes think I do -- but I suspect that is more my own ability to read subtle signals, spot potentially triggering things in the news, etc., combined with the enmeshment/blurred boundaries within me.

[Accepting]

The last break between us seems pretty final to me.

... but I do feel a sense of him atm. Like I'm going to hear from him. I've no contact with him, no friends or social media... it's just this inkling.

[huhhuh]

lady31:

No not at all. I had a long distance relationship with her so we are worlds apart from eachother.

I checked her facebook but only after I had the feeling. There hasn't been any updates there for months. So no triggers or indications there.

I was just so emotional attached to her and I felt like I could understand her pain and emotions and knew what she was thinking... .it sounds crazy and I don't really believe in spiritual stuff or telekinesis. But I just got this feeling that something is up.

[rags_and_feathers]

I know what you mean, huhhuh... .that's pretty common with BPD relationships, I think ... .we learn to read our partners almost as well as they can read us, in order to survive -- and it really can feel like a sixth sense, or a disturbance in the force, or whatever you want to call it.   

[Escaped 30.Sept.2013]

For many months, after the end of the idealisation 'honeymoon' period, I often woke in the night with an awareness of my LDR bf - not dreaming of him, not thinking he was there or calling to me, simply a very very strong awareness of him.

Eventually I noticed each morning that the time I'd woken the night before was around 10-15 minutes after his last online activity the previous evening, and concluded that when he went offline and turned out the light, there was nothing to keep at bay the emotions he works so hard to keep at bay, and so I was getting some kind of contact from his tormented mind, to my mind whihc loves him so much.

I don't know what it was. If it was self-generated, then all I can say is why did it vary (between about midnight and 2.30 on a weekday, 2-4am on a weekend) and why was it, each and every time, correlated to his last online activity?

I got really really angry on Sept 30th and it hasn't happened since then.

I don't quite know whether I miss it or not.

I only once experienced a similar thing, many, many years ago when I lived abroad and there was a major public disaster and one parent thought for several hours that the other parent had been killed in it. As that parent sat at home alone, frantically re-dialling the emergency phone-number, I woke on the other side of the world, with that very very strong awareness. No sense of disaster, no emotion with it, just a very very strong sense of awareness of my parent.

Same with my ex-bf.

I am a very rational person and do not believe in "psychic cords" but am at a loss how to explain it.

I also have had firm convictions in recent weeks that his new relationships is going better or going worse, although with more and more blocking I cannot confirm or refute these. the only definite things have been a conviction that things were going badly in his new r/s and seeing next day he had defriended her a second time in a fortnight (after that, I blocked that access to seeing his FB-friends list so have no knowledge of re-friending or not), and a conviction that things were going well and seeing this morning that she made reference to "can't wait for my visit to England!" to see him (have now blocked access to that too).

I hope those 'hunches' will go away too soon.

[asher2]

I want to preface what I am about to say with I have nothing at all to back this up. And I promise I'm totally normal (at least I think I am!).

Immediately after my ex and I broke up, I began to get a severe twitch in my eye. The twitch was bad and very annoying. I remember the last time I talked to her face-to-face (after we broke up), my eye severely twitched. For about three or four months after our breakup, the eye still twitched but eventually not as much. Today on occasion it will, but now it is rare.

This is the part where I hope you don't think I'm crazy. In the pain and confusion of our breakup, I don't how to explain it other than this. I had a strong thought in my head that every time my eye twitched, she was thinking about me. I've never thought that before about anyone or anything else and I have no idea why that thought would be in my head. But to this day I believe it's true. I too am not one for psychic readings or anything like that. I honestly think the voice in my head was God helping me get through the pain and letting me know I hadn't been just forgotten about. Obviously, I have nothing to back this up and can't explain it other than "this is what I believe."

Could the twitching have been from all the stress and lack of sleep I had at that point in time? Yep, absolutely. Could there maybe be something wrong with my eye? Yep. But even today, on the random occasion where my eye twitches, I tell myself "(Ex) is thinking about me" and wonder what (probably chaotic thing) is going on in her world to make her think of me.

[KHC_33]

Usually, I had a bad day yesterday and on top of it all I get restless texts from my ex saying how much he loves me and wants me back.

Usually when it rains it pours. 

[Ironmanrises]

Do you have a sixth sense that they might soon contact you... .?

No.

It is a pattern of behavior... .

That i have grown hypersensitive to.

Now... .

It feels more like... .

The lull before... .

The incoming storm.

My exUBPDgf... .

Is attempting to contact me... .

(Private call i received days ago)... .

And i know... .

Direct contact... .

Is inbound.

It fits into... .

The length of time... .

It takes for the dyregulation... .

To return to a baseline.

More times then not... .

If you read the accounts on here... .

The pwBPD does not keep... .

You permanently painted black.

One of the members accounts on here... .

That has really depicted this... .

Is TonyC... .

Read his posts... .

And you will see... .

He was painted black... .

Then white... .

Enough times to turn into... .

In his words... .

"A zebra... ."

My closing of both facebok/instagram... .

Has removed that variable... .

Of my exUBPDgf... .

Tracking my moving on... .

My life.

She does not have that control over me... .

This time.

That storm that is my exUBPDgf... .

Is headed my way.

It is only a matter of time... .

Based on her cyclic behavior.

[nowwhatz]

yes and no.

i checked out her fb a few days before she contacted me. my hypersensitivity gave me a feeling that she would contact me soon. i mentally tried to prepare myself.

when she contacted me it was an aha i was right/feeling of dread moment. but she would have called anyway at about that time... .plus my birthday was coming up so more excuses for her to try to call.

i think we become conditioned and experienced to the point we are like detectives who can get a read on subtlies and behaviors and clues which simulates a sixth sense.

[rags_and_feathers]

I tend to agree that it is that we are so conditioned to be tuned into their cycles that we feel psychically (in the sense of e.s.p) connected. It's so ingrained in us that we don't even realize we're carrying around this complex equation in our heads/selves. 

[hopealways]

"He was painted black... .

Then white... .

Enough times to turn into... .

In his words... .

"A zebra... .""

Dealing with the aftermath of this disorder is painful, but this gave me a chuckle!

[alliance]

I am not sure what to call it but it definitely felt like I could feel my ex, her presence, her essence. A disturbance in the force is a good way to put it. The sense of doom and gloom. The rut ro thinking.

We broke up 6 months ago. With the exception of two weeks of recycle, we have been NC.

When we first broke up, this "sense of her" was very strong. These days I chalk that up to a post traumatic stress thing. She wasn't there but my head, body and emotions were still reacting as tho she were.

It was very unsettling and confusing.

However, for the past month, I barely feel her at all. And, when I do feel a disturbance in the force, I can easily dismiss it.

I used to be very concerned that I wasn't strong enough or healed enough to not get sucked back in. Not anymore. 

[Blade99d]

I know this sounds crazy, but I sometimes have dreams that a few days/weeks later come true in some regard.  It happened with my ex gf's room mate.  I had a dream that I would run into them, and that they had moved out... .sure enough I ran into them at a local bar having dinner one night. They told me how crazy my ex was.  Well they didn't have to tell me... .and in a small way it validated that the things I saw and experienced were not made up.  Sure I own my 50% of the relationship, but she owned the other 50%.  I wanted to tell them, she isn't crazy, she needs help, but its not my place to talk about her to anyone.  I had this same conversation with my T yesterday, in that my T knows my ex needs help and he reassures me how strong I am to seek out help, and work on my issues from child hood.