Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
wow, i love this Lady31!
isseeu, we all understand your pain in this. but i think your therapist and others are correct. from what i can tell, once a BPD flips that switch and takes off, they only are there to try to hurt you more. they don't deserve any of our kindness (even though we really want to give it, and get some in return). my ex would show off both the loving and the hateful texts that her bf after me sent her to her friends and laugh at him--it's just cruel and they don't deserve the attention.
i think the best policy that a lot of people do--write this stuff, write it down or type it out... .but DO NOT send it! write it all out nice or mean, because it is healing for you to do so. But don't send this stuff to them--they are not worthy of it.
if only you could see the things that other ex's of his sent him when in the same position i think it would be easier to stop. i saw all kinds of "i still love you!" texts from my exBPDgf's exbf--i feel sorry for him now, and
so glad i didn't do so much of the same.
take care! and write but don't send! :-)
