BPD trying to disrupt new releationships?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Has anyone had the experience of a BPD ex trying to disrupt a new relationship that you were in?

Or do they generally disappear when they know your taken?

[strikeforce]

Has anyone had the experience of a BPD ex trying to disrupt a new relationship that you were in?

Or do they generally disappear when they know your taken?

[Ironmanrises]

I had asked mine... .

When I let her back in... .

Round 2... .

"What if I was with someone else... .?"

Her response:

"I would have done... .

Everything in my power... .

To break you and her apart.

You are MY man... ."

Was she lying... .?

Unknown.

But that is what she said.

And she was quite jealous.

[Waddams]

Mine has tried to be disruptive in a lot of ways when I've moved on from her, not just with new relationships.  They don't want you, but can't stand it when you stop paying attention to them, or when they perceive a loss of control.  Gotta be the center of attention.

[strikeforce]

I had asked mine... .

When I let her back in... .

Round 2... .

"What if I was with someone else... .?"

Her response:

"I would have done... .

Everything in my power... .

To break you and her apart.

You are MY man... ."

Was she lying... .?

Unknown.

But that is what she said.

And she was quite jealous.

hmm, that's quite scary

[Waifed]

Mine was very jealous of other women.  She even told me that my brother's wife wanted me over him the night before we split. In 2+ months she has not contacted me or made any attempt to find out what is going on in my life as far as I know. I haven't the slightest idea what she is doing and don't care since I have decided it is over forever.  If I said I didn't reminisce about her on occasion I would be lying.  Damn subconscious!

[willbegood]

Has anyone had the experience of a BPD ex trying to disrupt a new relationship that you were in?

Or do they generally disappear when they know your taken?

Interesting I saw this post tonight. Was on a lunch date today (both recently out of relationships) and we spoke about our ex's.

Oddly enough she was married to a sociopath. I'm painted black so I have no issues with who I'm dating right now. She says her ex is a thorn in her side and when he finds out she's dating someone he turns up the craziness. Apparently it was a big enough disruption, for her exbf, it was one of the reasons they are no longer together.

[rags_and_feathers]

Interesting how we tend to find others who have lived with similarly dysfunctional relationship dynamics. 

I think there is a lot of potential there for healing and healthy growth, but we also need to be aware that it was our own internal wounds that allowed us to be/stay in these relationships (with PD people, addicts, etc) , and make certain not to replicate them with other similarly wounded people/partners.

[willbegood]

 

I think there is a lot of potential there for healing and healthy growth, but we also need to be aware that it was our own internal wounds that allowed us to be/stay in these relationships (with PD people, addicts, etc) , and make certain not to replicate them with other similarly wounded people/partners.

I hear ya! What I found very interesting was she said something to the effect that she's a pleaser. She tries to make others happy. My first thought was uh oh! I never read anything about this on BPD family! Is this good, bad or indifferent? We both seem to be happy about being able to have normal good conversation without worrying if something we say is taken the wrong way.

Sorry about derailing the thread a little... .

[bauers220]

I guess I will eventually find the answer to this question... .

I have a feeling it won't be pretty... .

[Ironmanrises]

I had asked mine... .

When I let her back in... .

Round 2... .

"What if I was with someone else... .?"

Her response:

"I would have done... .

Everything in my power... .

To break you and her apart.

You are MY man... ."

Was she lying... .?

Unknown.

But that is what she said.

And she was quite jealous.

hmm, that's quite scary

Strike... .

Not to scare you further... .

When i let her... .

Back into my life... .

In round 2... .

I scrolled through her... .

Social media... .

Including her Twitter account(public)... .

And on the very day... .

She re engaged me... .

Directly... .

With the one text... .

That i tried to ignore... .

She had put a tweet... .

That stated... .

"From a distance... .

I am really happy... .

To see you happy... .

Till we meet again... ."

She mentioned to me... .

Regarding that tweet... .

That she was watching me... .

Tracking me... .

Online... .

Entire time... .

Of NC... .

Which was 3 months.

She stalked me.

And she mentioned... .

That behavior... .

Many times.

"I was watching you... .

I needed to see... .

How you would react... ."

I had no idea... .

The entire time... .

She was doing that.

None.

She exhibited... .

This behavior... .

When we were just friends... .

Too.

So imagine... .

Now... .

After she left me again... .

With the unknown/private calls... .

I have received... .

Is it a stretch... .

To think... .

She is doing the same thing now... .?

It is a pattern of behavior.