Hi, SuzieQ12 &
I'm truly sorry to hear about your daughter's troubles; it's terrible to love a child who has so much pain and trauma in her life. I know how that feels; my own adult (36) son was just diagnosed with BPD in April 2013, and before that had all the same diagnoses and symptoms and behaviors that you mention.
I know you say that the treatments she has had and now has access to haven't helped; is there maybe a Dual Diagnosis Program in your area? That is what saved my son's life this past March/April (they are who gave him the BPD diagnosis). It was an intensive, inpatient 21-day program that had DBT training and it was a safe place for him to understand himself and why he behaved the way he did. And he learned enough to make him interested in having Neurofeedback (or Biofeedback) Therapy which has turned him back into the happy, optimistic guy he was when he was little.
My son's story is linked to in my signature line, in blue, if you would like to learn more. But I can tell you that he was suicidal, a heroine addict and had recently been arrested prior to going to the Dual Diagnosis Center. Today he is not depressed or suicidal, and has been clean and sober for more than 8 months! I just want you to know that there really can be hope if she could get into the right program... .Maybe if you run an online search you will find a program like that near you (my son's was at the Bradford Regional Medical Center in Bradford, PA).
Another resource to check into that could help you find something nearby could be found here:
National Alliance on Mental Illness. I hope you can find some place to help your daughter... .In the meantime, please check out this link:
What can a parent do?; there is a lot of information there that can help you. Please tell us more of your story, and ask more questions; we are here for you
