Hi, javieira &
I totally get the frustration and sometimes horror you feel when your daughter acts in an inappropriate way in social situations... .Before being treated for his BPD, my adult son (36) would act in ways that would horrify my husband, my younger son, and me. Since he was just diagnosed in March/April of 2013, that's a whole lot of years of horror to endure
This type of inappropriate behavior is actually a symptom of BPD in some people; my son fully admits at this point--after being treated for it for the last 9 months--that he acted "weird" or "crazy" (in his own words), and he thinks it was because he didn't fully understand or know himself, and didn't know how to "fit in" with the rest of the world. He
truly wasn't doing these strange things in order to get anybody angry or upset; he was either trying to fit his round-peg self into a square-peg world, or trying to soothe his emotions/feelings in some way. Things that didn't make sense to anyone else who was with him, made perfect sense to him! And when people got angry at him, he could never understand why... .
Your daughter has been diagnosed? Is she in any type of treatment? Does she realize she needs help for her "troubles"? She's still young, and BPD or not, she's still trying to fit into the world
anyway, so it is naturally going to be harder for her than other teens without BPD. She's possibly "stuck" at the age where the disorder began, and with treatment she can eventually catch up to her true age, I think... .At least I am seeing that with my son; in the last 9 months he's matured emotionally by leaps and bounds! Where he was probably around 16 or so emotionally, 9 months ago, he's more like he should be, now.
If you can take the time to check out the links to the right-hand margin of this page, and read all you can, you will get a better idea of how your daughter's mind works, and how she is feeling. Once we can do that, and then learn how to communicate with our BPD child better, our child starts reacting better with
us. It does get easier to deal with our child when we understand what he/she is going through... .Hang in there, javieira; we're here to help you