Both of us have been pretty stressed out. She came to me while i was watching TV,happy with a gift she had recieved. In the course of conversation she took strong exception to something innocuous I said. It was just an honest question i had. She flared and told me my question was stupid. As is her MO she demeaned me and would not let it go. I felt trapped by her sitting on the couch in front of me and wanted to remove myself from what I perceived as a punishing situation. This escalated and she ran after me and tried to get me not to leave. Eventually she tried to get infront of the car and also tried to get in the car which I had locked.
The only two things I did right was:
1. To not allow her to succeed in stopping me from leaving.
2. I told her I would be back in 2 hrs.
I'm home now and she's gone. No note. Have no idea where she is or if she will be coming back tonight. I have feelings about this which are very mixed
1. I'm glad she's not here. It makes me very uncomfortable to be around her when she is in a bad mood -most of the time lately. (And we had a terrible face to face two days ago, as well)
2. I feel the sensation of fear which used to be so powerful in these situations in the past that I would fold like a house of cards and apologize for my part.
This is the first time she has left. I packed a bag tonight in case she returns, gets aggressive with me again, and I end up feeling I need to leave. Any comments/suggestions? Theo