Tonight I received an email from one of my ex's exes. She is a married woman (now) and she noticed I was no longer on my ex's Facebook.
We chatted a bit and she told me my ex clearly has emotional demons coupled with the inability to love anyone fully.
Mind you my ex has not painted this woman black and respects her.
Everything rang true, the picked fights, this woman always being in the wrong. It was definitely a confirmed pattern.
She ended the conversation stating that I am a wonderful person who deserves someone who can love me properly.
It was a letter I really needed today. Almost like a small blessing to confirm I was not wrong here, there is more to this.
Exactly. That's what I would make it mean, and it probably feels really good; enjoy it!
I wasn't as blessed, but she did tell me that her three previous exes all did something "heinous", her word, as the relationships were melting down. Those relationships lasted longer than mine did with her, some involved cohabitation, and of course there are two sides to every story, but yeah, of course the exes did; I couldn't have gone another day tolerating all her crap, and the only thing all of us have in common is her. I'm running with it.
And of course that was my mantra as I learned about the disorder and detached; it wasn't all me! I knew that intellectually anyway, in fact it was very little me, but with the constant onslaught of blame and abuse I did doubt myself. Nothing helped more than getting some distance and becoming 100% clear what I was responsible for. Freeing.
