Did anyone else here find that you were constantly treated like a therapist, but your advice was always disregarded, and then they come running back to you devastated when their plans completely backfire?
Had this a lot. I am very reluctant to be her "therapist" because either she ignores my advice or she does exactly what I told her and holds me responsible for what she did (don't know which one's worst actually). It's frustrating beyond words.
The problem is that the "therapy" (in lack of better words, I'm not a competent therapist) is part of the glue that used to hold us together. The more I set boundaries, the less we have to talk about.
I no longer accept listening to her hate-filled tirades about how bad other people are (because it only makes me feel bad). I no longer sit up late nights with her talking about her problems (because we never seem to solve any). I no longer sit around anxiously waiting for her to the break the silence after a three-day "silent treatment" (because it's a punishment for something I didn't do). This leaves her without an outlet for her anxienty, nowhere to "let off steam".
She's sad, frustrated and silent by the "new me" and I don't know what's going on in her head to be honest. But she has to think of something else to do instead of behaving like a teenage girl when she's in her late 30s.
