Hi froggy,
I find that my uBPDh is much more moodier and short tempered now that the days are shorter.
He won't use the SAD lamp I bought... think I'm going to need it soon if he's going to be like this for the next few months.
Ugh, the shorter days. Sorry to hear you're experiencing the moods of your H during this time. Can't say it's a BPD thing for sure; a lot of people experience this as it segues into the holiday season which is hard for a lot of folks, too. A double-whammy.
Might not be a bad idea using the lamp yourself
I have one, not because of my partner, but because of my own issues with the lack of daylight, feeling more tired than usual and feeling pulled in a lot of different directions during the holidays with work and family obligations. There just doesn't seem to be enough time for everything!
Waaaaa... . (lash out lash out )
Think your hubby might be experiencing something similar? Can you think of ways to validate him without invalidating him?
Keep writing things out, froggy! And take good care of yourself; exercise, enough sleep, wholesome foods... . Slowing life down while sticking with the basics helps to stay centered during stressful times