My Holiday Was Awesome

[Turkish]

Got home from work in the early afternoon Wed. Noticed that some stuff was on the floor in the bedroom. I figured that the X was raging in the morning over the kids giving her a hard time while she got them ready to take to the babysitter (I usually do most mornings). Then slowly looked to the other side of the room and noticed that the screen to the window was lying on the floor. Robbed!

Looks like they did a quick run down the hallway (the computer room was unmolested, have a very large system anyway, hard to carry) and my DSLR was still sitting on the table. Figured they exited the sliding glass door out the back (unlocked and off its tracks). Both e-reader tablets stolen off the table. DVD/gaming console (don't game much, mostly to watch streaming movies), an old iPod that I left docked to the stereo. Nice custom knife I had sitting on a top shelf in the hall closet. Some cheap jewelry of the X's. Some DVD box sets. About $1300... .just thought today about the laptop I never really use... .I only thought of that this morning. They might have taken that as well. Need to check when I get home.

Got alarm system installed that night, luckily they had an opening. The next day, I spent Thanksgiving by myself. My X didn't even engage a conversation other than asking me to just come by for dinner. I did go to the park with her and the kids, so spent most of the day with them. I could stand to do that. They left to go to her parents'. I saw a movie instead and went for a turbo-charged drive into the hills (almost hit a wild pig, too). Got home later to help put the kids to bed when she got home. Noticed that the X left one window open... .the day after we got robbed. GREAT. Can't trust her with anything?

Left with the kids for the weekend to see my family. Had a nice weekend. Remotely checked the alarm system, noticed that she spent both nights away. I am going to talk to her tonight and say that if she has someplace else to sleep, then GO THERE, and I'll take care of the kids until she gets an apartment, which still could take another month. Can't stand being around her... .the ongoing affair (or whatever the heck she thinks it is), me supporting her ("rent" most of the food, utilities, storage for her stuff... .emotional and financial stability by her pretending we are still a family)... .

Came home yesterday and she had cleaned and put up the Christmas tree. Maybe she is being nice because she knows she is being bad. Kind of get this one, but don't get it. The kids still need Christmas, I guess.

Come to work today, checked the alarm, noticed it was not armed. I figured she took a long time to get out, but she said she was in a hurry to leave. She then texts me that she forgot to arm it, despite me giving her a key fob so it's a one button arm/disarm. Pretty easy. I armed it remotely, but someone could have still gotten in after they watched her leave, which was what happened last week. They went through in the same hour after they watched her leave the house. Alarm... .great, one more expense that I don't need (but it is something that is needed, I realize).

And to top it off, I got a notice from the tax man and owe a pretty good chunk of change to them due to a recalculated bill from the previous year. Spam for Christmas kids!

I'm being punished by the Dark BPD Gods for not loving one of their minions properly.

[Waifed]

I'm being punished by the Dark BPD Gods for not loving one of their minions properly.

No... You are punishing yourself by allowing her to stay in your home.  I wonder if her teeny booper bf had something to do with the burglary? 

[Turkish]

I'm being punished by the Dark BPD Gods for not loving one of their minions properly.

No... You are punishing yourself by allowing her to stay in your home.  I wonder if her teeny booper bf had something to do with the burglary? 

I asked her that day (I called her and she came home half an hour later, stuck around, then left since I had to wait there for hours for the cops and alarm company) if she had ever told her paramour my last name. She said, "what's a paramour?" I said, "you know, 'for love'." Oh, I didn't know that. NO, he'd never do something like that! I replied, "running a background check on someone doesn't really mean jack." She didn't reply to that one.

I am going to talk to the neighbor again. He said his wife said she saw a kid at the house do a knock. I think the ethnic description didn;t fit, but I will double check. Her BF isn't of either of the two common ethnicities in our part of town, so he'd stick out like a sore thumb. I don't _think_ it was him, but I told her I discount nothing, and trust no one at this point.

[Waifed]

I'm being punished by the Dark BPD Gods for not loving one of their minions properly.

No... You are punishing yourself by allowing her to stay in your home.  I wonder if her teeny booper bf had something to do with the burglary? 

I asked her that day (I called her and she came home half an hour later, stuck around, then left since I had to wait there for hours for the cops and alarm company) if she had ever told her paramour my last name. She said, "what's a paramour?" I said, "you know, 'for love'." Oh, I didn't know that. NO, he'd never do something like that! I replied, "running a background check on someone doesn't really mean jack." She didn't reply to that one.

I am going to talk to the neighbor again. He said his wife said she saw a kid at the house do a knock. I think the ethnic description didn;t fit, but I will double check. Her BF isn't of either of the two common ethnicities in our part of town, so he'd stick out like a sore thumb. I don't _think_ it was him, but I told her I discount nothing, and trust no one at this point.

Ugh.  Good luck.  Soap Opera writers couldn't make this stuff up! 

[Findingmysong723]

I'm sorry to hear about your break in! I hope that they find out who did it and you get at least some money back from insurance! I also, hope it didn't involve your Ex's boyfriend, because that would be just another betrayal you don't deserve!

[ShadowDancer]

My exes "ex"(are they ever?) DID rob my house of over $30,000.00 in goods and cash. She actually lured me from my home under the pretense of "to talk about us". I got an alarm system too... .after the fact.  It has never been activated between then and now.

How do I know who robbed my house? His(the "ex" current wife(soon to be ex as well) told me of the argument right before she threw him out between the two cretins how about the "split" of my stuff. Apparently her ripped her off after ripping me off and she was at his door demanding her "share".

So much for honor among thieves eh? Talk about a soap opera. Yep we could not make this stuff up.

[TakingWingAtLast]

I'm being punished by the Dark BPD Gods for not loving one of their minions properly.

Turkish, I can appreciate your darkish humor here.   BPD gods indeed!  It certainly does have that sort of feel to it doesn't it?  Not to mention-My Holiday Was Awesome in the subject!  The irony is not lost on me.

To really appreciate the irony, I'll share a text that the ex sent this afternoon about my daughter: 

I have a perfect guy to set [D29] up with... .he's of Latino descent, hairdresser who's not gay, likes smart women with dark hair and fair skin... .he's 39 and wants to be setup.  What do you think?

This was preceded just two days before stating that I was a failure as a parent because my kids aren't financially independent.  More devaluing of me of course.  My ex hated my D29.  And she her.

Just one more setback good friend.  You'll weather this one too.  We can appreciate even the dark ironies here!   We're cheering for you!

D

[Turkish]

I'm being punished by the Dark BPD Gods for not loving one of their minions properly.

Turkish, I can appreciate your darkish humor here.   BPD gods indeed!  It certainly does have that sort of feel to it doesn't it?  Not to mention-My Holiday Was Awesome in the subject!  The irony is not lost on me.

To really appreciate the irony, I'll share a text that the ex sent this afternoon about my daughter: 

I have a perfect guy to set [D29] up with... .he's of Latino descent, hairdresser who's not gay, likes smart women with dark hair and fair skin... .he's 39 and wants to be setup.  What do you think?

This was preceded just two days before stating that I was a failure as a parent because my kids aren't financially independent.  More devaluing of me of course.  My ex hated my D29.  And she her.

Just one more setback good friend.  You'll weather this one too.  We can appreciate even the dark ironies here!   We're cheering for you!

D

Thank you. I'll see how the conversation will go tonight... .the "set up" text sent might sound weird to anyone but us here. I'll have a lot to look forward to in the coming decades as a co-parent :^p Good times... .good times.

[Hazelrah]

Turkish,

Keep hanging on, man.  I hope that once your ex is at least out of the house you'll finally get a chance to get your bearings again.  You really need a turn of good luck... .hell, we all do, don't we?