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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: December 03, 2013, 12:10:24 PM »

Has anyone dealt with their crazy hiding things and then asking you to look for them? It seems like really strange behavior to me. Not sure if it's related to BPD or not, but just really bizarre.

Mine would always be asking me to find stuff around the house: lip gloss, the TV remote, shoes, etc.

I know that sometimes things were just legitimately lost, but a few times I came to the realization that she had actually hidden what I was looking for and eventually found. It struck me as being very odd behavior.

Anybody else experienced this?
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« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2013, 12:28:53 PM »

I never remember anything like that.  I do remember her not ever leaving any of her personal belongings at my house.  I thought that was strange since we dated for 3 years.  They are strange people.
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« Reply #2 on: December 03, 2013, 12:41:24 PM »

Hey santa, sure, my BPDxW used to hold me hostage by hiding stuff, like my car keys or my laptop, on a regular basis.  It's all acting out on their feelings of insecurity, in my view.  Lucky Jim
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« Reply #3 on: December 03, 2013, 06:40:50 PM »

Hey santa, sure, my BPDxW used to hold me hostage by hiding stuff, like my car keys or my laptop, on a regular basis.  It's all acting out on their feelings of insecurity, in my view.  Lucky Jim

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Been there. I used to live on the 17th floor of a building and mine would throw my cell phone out the window on occasion. One time I watched it go sailing out the window and then the next morning it was sitting on the window sill. Pretty eerie. I know I saw it fly out. Strangest thing I've ever seen.
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