How to communicate more effectively with those who have BPD?N

[wondergirl101]

  This is wondergirl101, and i am so happy to finally have joined your group! My hope is to give and recieve answers, to the perplexing problems surrounding issues with BPD, and creating a few new guidlines for myself and borderline d's. Would appreciate any positive feedback. Thanks.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[livednlearned]

Hi wondergirl101,



Welcome! Do you have daughters who suffer from BPD? There are many tools here to help understand BPD and how it influences relationships, as well as wonderful communication guidelines that really do work.

Tell us a bit about the BPD sufferer in your life and how your relationship is today.

LnL

[briefcase]

 

Love the name you picked!  Much more interesting than briefcase.   

Can you tell us a little more about your family situation, and some of the challenges you're facing with your daughter? 

[angeldust1]

I am so happy you joined us, here.  You will find loving concern,  and people who actually understand what you are dealing with.  For so long I though it was all me,  or my pwBPD,  was for lack of  better wording... .Just plain crazy or a pathological liar.   When I began reading stories,  it was like reading my life on the screen.  Other people deal with the same thing and WOW... .THEY UNDERSTAND.

As far as some of the most useful books I have found is " Stop walking on Eggshells"  it is by far the best.  It describes in depth what BPD is and where you the nonBP fit in,   helps you understand why this is not your fault,  and most importantly gives you great practical tools to work with and how they will impact your relationship with your BPD.

Well come  we love you here.

[Gidget]

Welcome Wondergirl101,

I truly believe reading the stories here on this board I feel like so many of them is what I have lived with a lot of them are worse then what I went thru.

I do believe it made and helped me realize I was ok, not the perfect Mother but not what my daughter has accused me of in her fits of rage.

I am finally understanding this disorder starting to feel less depressed and more encouraged in finding ways to start having a healthy relationship with my adult daughter and seeing what she saw thru her eyes.

Has been a Godsend