We're Not Even Together, Yet Still Stress Today, This HOliday

[Turkish]

Some "Holy" Day.

I posted earlier that my X didn't share her plans with me and got stressed out because she decides things at the last minute, then tells me, then takes her anger out on me for the script not going according to this last minute, rude plan.

She left to go to the beauty parlor. I'm taking the kids over to her family's house for a few hours, after which I will pick them up and watch over them while she goes out to girl's night (probably, but supposedly, too).

I literally pull up in front of the other house when she texts me how come didn't I change S3 because he said he peed his underwear earlier. I texted back (to heck with the communication tools at this point, she's left and I'm gladder than ever now!), "how come you didn't tell me?" She replied that she had left his clothes on my bed. I remember seeing pants and a shirt, but it made no sense to me to change him for all of three hours where after I'd take him home to put to bed. I was wondering how she knew... .

I didn't answer, but drove the few miles back home and she was home, but in the shower. She probably figured out I'd come in after she got out by seeing the clothes gone. I didn't get any confirmation texts. When she's mad, she's mad. I ran inside to get the clothes, and she didn't put out fresh underwear for him, which might have telegraphed to me what she wanted, and I might have texted her.

I grabbed the clothes and some underwear and took them to her family's house, where I changed him. I left his original shirt in case, I told her brother because he asked what was going on, "in case I put the wrong shirt on him." They invited me to eat, but I declined politely. They know their daughter, and they know what I have been doing by staying away. Left to go chain smoke in a nearby parking lot until I was sure she'd left. True to form, she took over an hour to shower and get ready for her night out, stopping by her parents' for a while first to say goodnight to the kids. I was thoughtful enough to check the alarm remotely and waited around the corner until I saw she had left. Now I am home. Free to post on MY computer that I bought HER so she could fulfill HER dream of going back to school by taking some classes online a few years ago.

I am less mad at her current or former paramour now... . he thought he was rescuing her, but he rescued ME!

So sick of this WoE bs... . I hope I can count this as the last holiday that is ruined, or at a minimum, stressful, due to her. S3's bday is coming up... . I guess there is that to look forward to.

Cheers! I'll be joining everyone for a toast later after I take care of my kids.

[Waifed]

Happy New Year Turkish

You are a good man.

[Perfidy]

Happy new year Turk! You are a good man and a strong one too.     

[Turkish]

Thanks guys, you too. I picked them up. She asked if she should come home before going out to help put them to bed. I said I had it. I got home, grtting the kids out, she pulled up and helped get them into bed. Said she wanted to change her shirt, too (to something more appropriate to "going out" I suppose.

Can't wait to start my new life soon... . need to focus back into work. Been detached for too long months, not good... .