Thanks Waifed.
You're absolutely right. It is completely manipulative but I don't think she's even aware that it is.
But more than anything else - it's incredibly immature…
Of course what we do to other people affects how they feel about us
Actions have consequences and love can be poisoned, damaged and killed
That's life
It's childlike to think otherwise
I used to tell my ex all the time that she was immature. I knew nothing about BPD and pretty much called her out on all the "symptoms" at one time or another during the relationship. She was a Waif and they tend to be very passive aggressive so I am totally sensitive to manipulation. It is sad because she probably did mean what she said when she said it. The problem is their feelings change like the wind. If you could take away cheating and the fact that they may leave you at a moments notice, I would probably stay with her forever even though my quality of life would have been bad. I truly just wanted to give her a good life, as I am sure you feel the same way.
