Need help on how to find a Therapist

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi all, I feel like my wife's BPD behaviors is destroying me and it's time to get me help myself to make a decision.

What type of Therapist should I look for? Thank you all for your support.

[bpdsupport]

Hi all, I feel like my wife's BPD behaviors is destroying me and it's time to get me help myself to make a decision.

What type of Therapist should I look for? Thank you all for your support.

[Seneca]

reaaally good question, wish i could help you out! anxious to hear the responses... . i know lots of users are in therapy as well. 

[karma_gal]

What I did was Google therapists in my area. Once I had a list of contenders based on geography, I kept the ones who accepted my insurance or offered reimbursement options. From there I narrowed the list farther to those who specifically indicated a specialty with personality disorders in general. Then I called the top three contenders for more info, specifically inquiring about experience with BPD. The one I chose had specific experience with BPD, actively treated a fair number of patients in recovery and ran a DBT group. So far it has worked out awesome because she understood the nuances of the disorder and totally "got" what I was talking about. Typing this reminds me that I need to call for an appointment.

Anyway I would start with a similar process. I have found general counselors weren't well versed enough to help and religious counselors - that I saw anyway - were too "stay married regardless of how bad it gets" for me. If you go to Psychology Today they maintain a list of therapists by location so that would be a good place to check initially too.

[Clearmind]

Good on you!

Psychology Today - Find a Therapist

Always phone and chat to them about what their speciality is first - someone well versed in BPD is always helpful. We don't really need a therapist with DBT experience. DBT is great for us too however if you are looking for a DBT therapist for your wife, your wife needs to seek that out not you.

Also BPD_support we don't always click with the first therapist we see. My first one reminded me of my great aunt! Second one I found is a gem and have been seeing her for 2 years - invaluable.

Often our own issues come out in therapy - which is a wonderful thing. My choice in partner was certainly reminiscent of my childhood. I have a BPD parent.

Hope this helps