she was never my girl it was just my turn

[sun seeker]

 

       Can't seem to stop thinking to much lately... . im staying strong, still N/C almost 7  weeks . I keep busy everyday... . Have support of family and friends... (am fortunate). Just all the lies, and cheating, and sucide threats & attempts , manipulation,  belittling keep replaying in my mind. It's like I was in a Dream/NIghtmare for the past 11 months. Every day that passes i realize more and more of the crap she said was B.S. How could I not see this back then. I just learned what mirroring was, it makes perfect sense. Ive have alot of healing to do still, I say bring that s**t on! On the other hand if this didn't happen I wouldn't of figured out issues I didnt realize I have. Win win she gone and im gunna have a better life! 

[heartandwhole]

sun seeker,

That's a great perspective to see this as win-win!  It's so hard to get through, but once we see the other side of loss we realize that we have gained something very valuable.

It's really normal to be overwhelmed by the realization that much of the relationship was based on an illusion – that's what we humans do.    Try not to let the thoughts take over completely.

What are you doing these days to help stay balanced?