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« on: January 09, 2014, 10:50:55 PM »
Years? Really? I am almost there. I know I haven't detached completely. I'm very close. It's been almost ten months. I get it now. I cared. It meant a lot to me. I loved her. I would have gone to hell and back for her. I would have given my life if it would have made a difference.

THAT WAS ME. I'm good with that. I did the best I could and I'm a caring, loving person. Guess how I figured this out. If you can't guess pm me and I'll tell you. It seems to be a big secret. The relief... . It's like having a fence post taken out of my a$$. 
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« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2014, 11:37:54 PM »
You admitted it, accepted it, and felt ahhh?
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« Reply #2 on: January 09, 2014, 11:50:42 PM »
I'm accepting it. It feels good. Fn life goes on
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« Reply #3 on: January 10, 2014, 12:47:37 AM »
Quote from: myself on January 09, 2014, 11:37:54 PM
You admitted it, accepted it, and felt ahhh?

Pretty much
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« Reply #4 on: January 10, 2014, 12:49:11 AM »
Quote from: Perfidy on January 09, 2014, 11:50:42 PM
life goes on

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« Reply #5 on: January 10, 2014, 12:52:24 AM »
Quote from: seeking balance on January 10, 2014, 12:49:11 AM
Quote from: Perfidy on January 09, 2014, 11:50:42 PM
life goes on

yep, it certainly does  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

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It's a choice. I know where I'm coming from.
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« Reply #6 on: January 10, 2014, 12:53:35 AM »
Lets go into the desert, and party!
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« Reply #7 on: January 10, 2014, 10:45:35 AM »
You realized that you are much more than this body/mind thing that moves in space, that nothing can touch your inherent perfection, that your true nature transcends thought, feeling, and physical pleasure/pain, all the while expressing the infinite creativity in each of those ways?   Smiling (click to insert in post)

C'mon perfidy, give us the carrot! 


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« Reply #8 on: January 10, 2014, 11:34:27 AM »
Problems and solutions. Stay in the problem or find the solution. A choice.

Getting her completely out of my life is the solution. The rest will take care of itself.
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« Reply #9 on: January 10, 2014, 01:09:41 PM »
Quote from: Perfidy on January 10, 2014, 11:34:27 AM
Problems and solutions. Stay in the problem or find the solution. A choice.

Getting her completely out of my life is the solution. The rest will take care of itself.

I like that!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #10 on: January 10, 2014, 01:21:25 PM »
Quote from: Perfidy on January 10, 2014, 11:34:27 AM
Problems and solutions. Stay in the problem or find the solution. A choice.

Getting her completely out of my life is the solution. The rest will take care of itself.

Agreed!  I came to that conclusion a while back.  I even backed off quite a bit from visiting this site so much because I'd find myself glued to it at times, reading everyone else's horror stories and re-experiencing their misery all over again.  It kinda made me feel like I was back there again.  That's not moving forward.
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« Reply #11 on: January 10, 2014, 02:12:44 PM »
Glad to hear it, Perfidy. I am in the same kind of boat, finding more acceptance every day. It's encouraging to know there's land in sight.
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« Reply #12 on: January 10, 2014, 02:26:38 PM »
Myself, exactly. Land in sight. Rumination=depression. Never understood this until recently.
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