emotional immaturity

[rosie0523]

My 46 year old daughter suffers from BPD and is emotinally immature.  She has a measured IQ of 90.  She has the ability to work and contribute  to her life and that of her family but her emotional problems interfere and decimate everything she touches.  I now believe I understand, however, she has a 9 year old son who has been effected by the chaos since the day he was born.  He was just diagnosed with Crohn's disease and I'm worried sick about his future health, emotional and physical. 

Listening to her and watching the relationship between my DD and GS reminds me of a 7 year old (DD)  trying to boss around a nine year old.  My GS fights back as though he were facing a bully on the playground. 

Please could you share any such experiences you have had which might help us.  Thank you.

Rose

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[jellibeans]

rosie

Can you tell me is your daughter getting any therapy?

What exactly are your worries regard you gs?

I am sorry thing are not good for you and it must be hard to watch when things are bad. I think we need a bit b=more detail to give advise. Have you read any of the articles here?

Video--Validation: Encouraging Peace in a BPD Family

Suggested Reading for members who are supporting a son or daughter with BPD

[trytrytry]

I am so sorry to read about your troubles.  Your poor dear gchild.  My DD27 is rather low functioning,  but doesn't know it and continues to try to attend college with loans that she then needs to pay back.  Sadly, she can hardly remember to go to work, and she loses her purse all the time- She can't organize her socks.  I do not have a grandchild to worry about which makes my situation much different than yours but,  I wanted to offer you and your family some support.  Please take good good care of yourself, so you can do your best for your dear gchild.