A big Ah HA Moment

[Pretty Woman]

So last night the new person I am seeing and myself were texting. We started playing a silly game, "Ask Three Questions". It could be any question, nothing too personal and we had to answer it honestly.

So we played the game and had so much fun we ended up doing this for an hour asking all sorts of funny, goofy and serious things.

When we stopped I realized I knew more about this woman in a little over an hour than I did about my ex who I dated for over a year.

?

It was actually a little sad. Was I even in a relationship? Was I partially to blame for the deterioration of us?

Was I not asking the right questions?

But then it hit me. She only talked about exes. Everything else was about me and my likes. She mirrored me.

She was me?

Was I dating myself? Do I have this problem?

  I was thinking a lot!

I am thoroughly confused but all I know is it was so nice to have a connection with someone I really feel myself with. I'm not being judged for my opinions or looked down at for my past or the things I say. It was refreshing, it actually made me smile... . and I hadn't smiled for a very long time.

[santa]

You've never played The Question Game before? It's pretty fun.

[santa]

Basically, you ask them a question. Then, they answer your question and ask you one in return. It can go on for hours if you're bored enough. Lol

[Pretty Woman]

Santa,

  Ha ha! I just missed communicating with someone. It's a good feeling to actually learn something new about someone!

[myself]

There's a huge difference between someone being open or closed with you.

Your old r/s sounds like a locked door. The new r/s like a window on a pleasant day.

It's nice to read about something nice! I hope it gets better and better for you.

[Moonie75]

Mother of God & all the saints, that game sounds dangerous to me!

[fromheeltoheal]

I played that game with my borderline ex, although we didn't call it that. If I had to name it, it would be called Boundary Busting, comprised of me opening up and sharing, her playing victim with all her exes. Thinking about it, she had an uncanny ability to sound like she was opening up, without opening up.

Note to self: pay attention to what's really being said next time.

[Murbay]

fromhealtoheal, that sounds all too familiar and a game I played with my ex too. Only I called it Russian Roulette because everything I opened up about ended up being used against me at some point and any female friends mentioned, she ended up trying to befriend 

Pretty Woman, it sounds like you had a pleasant experience with someone who was willing and able to open up to you. I'm really pleased to hear it made you smile too. I truly hope things work out for you