How do they know?

[Ironmanrises]

***TWILIGHT ZONE eerie music playing in the background***

She projected what she was going to do to you. And that is what she ended up doing. Before you could do that to her. Concurrently occurring reality has no place in the world of a pwBPD. Only what transpires in their chaotic whirlpool of thought processes. That is the reality that matters. And that is the reality your pwBPD, and mine, chose to accept. Scary beyond words.

[arn131arn]

***TWILIGHT ZONE eerie music playing in the background***

She projected what she was going to do to you. And that is what she ended up doing. Before you could do that to her. Concurrently occurring reality has no place in the world of a pwBPD. Only what transpires in their chaotic whirlpool of thought processes. That is the reality that matters. And that is the reality your pwBPD, and mine, chose to accept. Scary beyond words.

Would you agree that she is probably already feeling those fears and inadequacies with her new man, Ironmanfalls?  I mean this guy has 2 homes and a condo downtown.  Makes big hunks of cheese... . I was a bartender that went to school during the day (although I did provide a nice home for her); I mean this must be me just on steroids, huh?

She went crazy because I never put her name on uor home (bc she refused to pay a single bill, and more like demanded I do it, bc she had a false sense of entitlement!

Now, she is in a RS that will certainly not get far without a prenup... . then the claws come out?

********************more twilight zone music*********************

[Ironmanrises]

***TWILIGHT ZONE eerie music playing in the background***

She projected what she was going to do to you. And that is what she ended up doing. Before you could do that to her. Concurrently occurring reality has no place in the world of a pwBPD. Only what transpires in their chaotic whirlpool of thought processes. That is the reality that matters. And that is the reality your pwBPD, and mine, chose to accept. Scary beyond words.

Would you agree that she is probably already feeling those fears and inadequacies with her new man, Ironmanfalls?  I mean this guy has 2 homes and a condo downtown.  Makes big hunks of cheese... . I was a bartender that went to school during the day (although I did provide a nice home for her); I mean this must be me just on steroids, huh?

She went crazy because I never put her name on uor home (bc she refused to pay a single bill, and more like demanded I do it, bc she had a false sense of entitlement!

Now, she is in a RS that will certainly not get far without a prenup... . then the claws come out?

********************more twilight zone music*********************

Her behavior isnt going to change because the new guy has money(i know it hurts that she replaced you like that, i get that). As soon as trigger day approaches, whether it takes a shorter or longer time frame with him, will occur. Why? Because you experienced it. You saw it. All his money wont save him when her other side springs into horrifying action. It will help with therapy/meds afterwards. But that is about it. Hang in there arn. Dont be surprised if she reappears in your life, when the above mentioned occurs.

[arn131arn]

Nah... . I will be in another city 60 miles away finishing my degree by that time.

Going to come in on the week days on my days to see my son and have him there on my weekends.

Never have to see her again

[growing_wings]

pwBPD have long term relations with "flawed" people... . healthy people with strong boundaries that are not lonely or needy with a savior complex tend to not last long in these relationships.  The pattern of behavior was set by all the relationships.

So, no sixth sense - just a master survivor who knows where to get needs met until the game changes.

i agree with SB... is partly out pattern of behaviour, the BPD is a master at recognizing people with those pattern of behaviours, and we confirm that when we engage int he r/s normalizing and taking their hits endless times... so when they need someone, they are very confident they will get us as have have "fit" the pattern they need for their own survival.

some of us that fall in recycling find it hard to break our pattern... those who manage to escape recycling managed to break the pattern.

No sixth sense AFTER the break up, he sixth sense was used before they engaged us when they found out about our behavioural patterns: rescuer type, co-dependance, etc...   takes work to get rid of these patterns for us too. we need to do the walk and the work...

[strikeforce]

They 'return to the scene of the crime' to get another hit, another fix. Its what drives them. Certainly mine loved to see suffering, loved to have the power over people.

[strikeforce]

 

My experience has been this. My xdBPDgf would make contact and test the waters so to speak. if you answer (which we all know is a terrible move) & come off as  being done or moving on they rage or devalue you. When you come across pleasent or sympathetic they got you on the hook AGAIN! (SUCKER)

Mine was the other way round. If I showed that I was moving on she would panic and try everything to get back.

If I came across nice and interested again she would know she still had the power and then play about with me again before disappearing for a while.