After enduring a difficult and painful BPD relationship and its demise, I have done extensive research on the topic and I have read the stories of all you fine folks and feel that I am a professional in dealing with BPD. That being said, my roommate recently began dating a stripper (
) and he recently told me about something that happened in their relationship that made me
He told me that he recently went out with the girl and her parents and some other family members came out to meet them for drinks. Evidently, everything went fine but when the night was over and it was time for him to take her home, she SNAPPED. She went crazy and started raging about things that had never been discussed in their relationship at all - he treats her like everyone else treats her (like a stripper? ), they're two different people who shouldn't be together, etc. etc. Again, this came out of nowhere and immediately after he met her family and things went pretty well. A couple of days later, she called him apologizing, blaming the alcohol and asked that they hang out again. I told him she probably has BPD.
The one similarity that made me was that my ex started to devalue me as soon as I started getting closer to her family. Her family was extremely accommodating and receptive to me and I loved them all for it, we actually all got along very well. However, it seems that that closeness turned a switch. Similar to what happened to my friend. The point of my story is just to say that I feel now like I'm the BPD police trying to always find the disorder in people when they act illogical. Unfortunately, I feel damaged.
