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First It Was The Silent Phone Calls, And Now...
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February 06, 2014, 03:29:42 PM »
Since i went NC 18 months ago, i have been receiving "Silent Hang Up Calls" on my office telephone. I was convinced it was my exBPDgf. I never responded in any way whatever. I have stayed 100% NC.
However today, i answered my office phone and a woman's voice said " Sorry i have the wrong number" Even though she tried to disguise her voice, i knew it was her.
Is this a common practice for pwBPD to carry out? If so then why has she spoken now after so many silent calls, all be it just to say she had dialed the wrong number?
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Re: First It Was The Silent Phone Calls, And Now...
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Wow, willing. Congrats on 18 months of NC. I assume she is fishing, throwing a line out there to see if u will bite on it. Funny thing, she's not in what u call a "honey hole"! Lol. It most probably is her, her narcissism is too strong to tell u SHE is the one initiating... . do u have an IT dept that can trace the calls coming in? I would think that they could at least block some of her numbers coming in?
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Quote from: Willingtolearn on February 06, 2014, 03:29:42 PM
Is this a common practice for pwBPD to carry out?
it is not out of the realm of possibilities - remember though, it isn't so much about YOU - it is about the idea of contacting you or hearing your voice is soothing some emotional response in her that may or may very well not have anything to do with you.
Quote from: Murbay on February 06, 2014, 01:26:30 PM
If so then why has she spoken now after so many silent calls, all be it just to say she had dialed the wrong number?
well, could be fishing trip on her part.
The other thing is we can get so sensitive to the stories we read here, that we may see things that are not there... . I mean, it is possible it was a real wrong number and the woman wasn't her... . that is a possibility, right?
Overall, how are you feeling? triggered?
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Thank you for your replies.
Do i feel triggered? Far from it. If it is her making these calls, then she can waste as much of her time as she wishes. Her only response from me will be NC
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Quote from: Willingtolearn on February 06, 2014, 04:20:13 PM
Do i feel triggered? Far from it. If it is her making these calls, then she can waste as much of her time as she wishes. Her only response from me will be NC
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Quote from: Willingtolearn on February 06, 2014, 03:29:42 PM
Since i went NC 18 months ago, i have been receiving "Silent Hang Up Calls" on my office telephone. I was convinced it was my exBPDgf. I never responded in any way whatever. I have stayed 100% NC.
However today, i answered my office phone and a woman's voice said " Sorry i have the wrong number" Even though she tried to disguise her voice, i knew it was her.
Is this a common practice for pwBPD to carry out? If so then why has she spoken now after so many silent calls, all be it just to say she had dialed the wrong number?
Yes. My exUBPDgf first re engagement attempt(right before round 2) came via a private number calling leaving a silent voicemail. Than another private call at midnight that i answered, silence on the other end. The following day, a direct text from her. Followed by 17 more the following morning. I questioned her on those calls and she confirmed after i had let her back in that it was her. When i asked why she remained silent, she replied " I
needed
to hear your voice.
You sounded so happy
." Soothing. A need. That is what i was/am. An object. To be used. As needed. Once used. I was discarded 5 months later. Do not allow that person back in.
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