Damn... When will I stop thinking about her...

[joethemechanic]

For some reason I fail to see drinking, doing drugs, and sleeping around as "high functioning". I really see them all as being screw-ups, unless they are doing something to improve their condition.

I think the first thing these chicks (ok, sometimes guys) have to do is stop playing "wannabee rock star party girl", stop getting high and drunk, and grow the F up.

That includes my own little BPD darling. I keep telling her she is 48, not 18. At 18 her act was kinda cute, at 48 her partying makes her look like a low rent loser.

[mgl210]

To the OP,

Sorry I went off topic... . If I did. As I stated in my previous post, the more that you've invested in someone (emotionally,etc) in someone, that much longer it can be for you to get over someone. Everyone has a different attachment level to the ones that they love. So its hard to say when exactly you will get over your ex. My ex and I have been on/off together for the almost past four years. I don't want to tell you oh tommorow you are going to be over her, because that is definitely not true.

The only truth you should know is that you are hurting. Give yourself true time to heal. Be honest with your own feelings and be aware of them.

Good luck buddy

MGL