The longest time without contact and then contact

[magichat101]

Hey all, just curious what was the longest time your ex BD went NC and then contacted you? Mine was 3 months and then another 3 months... . She seems to like her 3 month intervals ... . And when they did contact you what did they say?

[MrFox]

My exBPDgf went about 5 weeks from me emailing her to tell her to stop contacting me and that I was done for good.  5 weeks after was my birthday and she texted to tell me how horrible I was, how amazing she was, and she hoped I had a terrible life.  That was about three months ago.

She seems to cycle a little slower than your ex, about two years or so.  Married for two years before that went to hell.  Lasted another year because of a child.  Two years on and off with one guy that she dumped two days before her wedding.  Year and a half with me, but I think she was testing me.  I could have probably got another 6 months or so had I not told her it was over for good.  I imagine her new husband will be regretting his decision to marry her come Christmas of 2015 if her old patterns hold true.  Maybe sooner since she has already gone through devaluation periods with him.

[joethemechanic]

17 years in my case

[whatathing]

My uBPDexgf misses me every 3 months, also. In the intervals, she goes NC and says that she doesn't know why but she gets anxious when she's with me. One day I asked why did she only call when she's down and needing something, why doesn't she call when she's ok, and she said "I dont know, I guess I'm egocentric". High functioning, avoidant waif.