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hi all... .
as i go through my up and downs of post r/s, as i feel the pain and the inevitable feeling of giving up and email her... . i saw this:
"To love yourself, truly love yourself, is to finally discover the essence of personal courage, self-respect, integrity, and self-esteem. These are the qualities of grace that come directly from a soul with stamina." from Caroline Myss
Self respect
is the word that really stands out for me on this... alongside personal courage. I seemed like i didnt have self-respect during the nasty parts of hte r/s, i sold my ground to her... she owned it, and i was just going and dancing to her rythm. Now, that i think of recycle, or contacting her, or live with fear of her retaliations if i dont stand my ground, this is lack of self respect again!, even if i am away... .
but standing with self respect and personal courage is not easy, and in times like this, it becomes SO clear how hard it is... . but i like the fact that Caroline Myss translates that struggle to have all those qualities she describes onto having a Soul with stamina.
that motivates me to keep going... . and free myself from the fears of finding her in the street, or working with her competitors, or or or...
lets see how it goes.
thanks for reading.
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Quote from: growing_wings on February 13, 2014, 03:18:45 PM
"To love yourself, truly love yourself, is to finally discover the essence of personal courage, self-respect, integrity, and self-esteem. These are the qualities of grace that come directly from a soul with stamina." from Caroline Myss
This is truly a great quote!
Thanks for sharing... . you might want to add this to your profile before I do
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Great quote / observation.
Quite often this whole thing is called a Journey Back to Self. I'd never really understood that until recently, but our issues (being ego-based) were each a step away from our divine and innate self. This whole process - learning about PDs and Codependency etc. - might seem like education, but it truth we are UNlearning the lessons our false selves believed.
The soul is indeed very patient and has stamina in spades. It waits for us to come back!
My biggest issue has revealed itself to be the need to DO something to feel love. Like it must be earned and that I am not enough unless I do something to get it and keep it. For me, the key is to just BE. To trust I am enough. Like a tree. All other roles have been transplanted onto us, but even if we did nothing, we are enough and have a purpose without doing a thing.
Deepak Chopra recently spoke of learning to just BE. He said:
"The less you do, the more you get. Ultimately you can do nothing and get everything"
That's where I'm at
BB12
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