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Perfidy
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« on: February 16, 2014, 12:48:15 PM »

She contacted me. I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
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« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2014, 02:19:39 PM »

Like the Cheshire Cat? Can something that is so vexing and without a body present be beheaded? Yes? No? Maybe... .
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« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2014, 02:25:44 PM »

She contacted me. I didn't talk to her and disappeared.

So what do you conclude from that Perfidy?
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« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2014, 02:35:20 PM »

I have often seen a cat without a grin but never a grin without a cat.
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« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2014, 02:42:25 PM »

She was looking for the old you.

You reappeared much better.

She didn't really see you.
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« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2014, 03:14:05 PM »

This started as a reply to a broken contact thread. All good.

I simply walked away. She wanted to talk, I didn't. She came right up to me and put her hand on my right arm. Told me that I haunt all of her dreams and she thinks about me every day. First time in almost a year she said she was sorry. She didn't say what she was sorry for though. I didn't ask. I didn't solicit contact. Didn't want contact. Don't want her.

We have nothing to talk about. It's all been said. I don't need to be told twice. I have nothing to add.

My conclusion of her behavior? I have no idea what motivated her and I don't care. Nothing good could possibly come of any interaction with her.

Later that night I cried for the first time in a long time. I am through the worst of it but hurt remains in me. Working it out. It's ok.
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« Reply #6 on: February 16, 2014, 03:21:05 PM »

Wow.   
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« Reply #7 on: February 16, 2014, 03:38:27 PM »

Perfidy,

I'm impressed. I know I'm absolutely not at the point where I could/would turn my back if my uBPD ex boyfriend professed all of that. In fact, he's said similar things a few times before and I've broken down and responsded every time. Of coures it led to nothing good.

I am sure you did the right thing.

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