So insane how they are never responsible for their own bad decisions.
They can't. Taking responsibility can be hard for people who don't have a PD. In her mind she probably feels like she has no control over anything and therefore bad things just keep "happening" to her.
The closest I ever saw my step kids BPD mom come to accepting responsibility was in a public online post to her mother discussing a recent speeding ticket. She said, "We're damned if we do, and we do. So we're just damned."