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Calm Waters
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« on: February 28, 2014, 05:29:10 AM »

I find this very difficult, on top of everything I have had to come to terms with about BPD my brother is now dealing with what seems to be a step daughter ( not biological ) who is now showing her true BPD colours. My brother met his partner after his divorce 25 years ago, she was intelligent and fun and had abusive relationships in the past, she had two adult children, the son committed suicide shortly after the two of them met. Shortly after the suicide my brothers partner developed Parkinson's and for 25 years we have watched her deteriorate in to dementia now also. All the while the daughter kept a distance and had in the past been very abusive to her mother. My brother is now effectively a great grandfather ( step to the whole brood) He is now having Chemotherapy for his 3rd bought of cancer and his partner has had to go into a care home which he is gutted about, but he cant manage any more. So now the daughter has shown her true colours by spreading rumours about my brothers conduct, besmirching his character, making accusations and getting social services involved. My brother is devastated and i am angry. The daughter only motive as far as I can see is money. So after 25 years of care love and support this is what my brother gets at his most vulnerable. Calouse doesn't begin to do it justice
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« Reply #1 on: March 04, 2014, 11:00:24 AM »

Hi, Calm Waters,

I am sorry to hear about your brother's illness. It sounds like he has been dealing with a lot over the years and it must be difficult for him to be dealing with his stepdaughter right now while in the midst of chemotherapy. I can see that you care about your brother and are angry at the way he is being treated. He probably needs extra support during this time.

Do you have any direct interactions with your step-niece? What is your role in the management of your brother's care right now?

Wishing you peace,

PF
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