Ex-BPD Unblocked Me

[rosesarered777]

Looks like my Ex-BPD has unblocked me as this guy I warned about her blocked my Facebook account. However, I cannot see my ex's friends list anymore, so obviously that is strange.

Am I about to be recycled or does she think I have moved on? It's kind of strange that I was unblocked almost 3 months after the relationship is over.

I will still maintain NC for my own personal healing.

[mitchell16]

well if they are anything like mine, expect a recycle attempt to be coming. avoid all contact if you cna. I know easier said then done. I opened the door and my slid back in somewhat and once again I allowed her to get back into my head after I spent a long and I mean a long 6 months trying to get her out of there. MIne has alwasy used little things like this to start the engament prosess all over again.

[rosesarered777]

I just figured that she was too curious to keep away. I guess I shouldn't be hoping for a recycle even though that might happen soon...

[LA4610]

"MIne has alwasy used little things like this to start the engament prosess all over again.

THIS! they are so so very good at this! be careful

[Tausk]

I just figured that she was too curious to keep away. I guess I shouldn't be hoping for a recycle even though that might happen soon...

I don't understand?   Are you already deciding to recycle?  It sounds like it.  And if you are, perhaps one of the other boards is better for you to lessen the damage.

On this board, my only question, why have you not blocked your ex yet?

[growing_wings]

I will still maintain NC for my own personal healing.

I join Tausk's comment... .

why is it important for you to know the reason why you ex un-blocked you?

NC means, not knowing about them, not checking FB and avoid hearing from them through other parties.

[rosesarered777]

I suppose it is stupid to think that some of the things that she does would make sense to a non such as myself.

I realized that she probably unblocked me out of surprise that I did not contact her on my birthday begging for her to return. I suppose it doesn't matter since I do not think of her anywhere as much as I used to. People are always curious to see what others are up to and that would explain the re-block. She got curious, saw that I am busy and quickly re-blocked me. Makes sense.

I am sure that I would think of her even less had I found someone I liked to date.  I have plenty of people to speak to, not many dating prospects /yet/. I am on the verge of getting dates though.

It just boggles my mind that she had a great future with me and would blow it. Guess that's just her fuzzy thinking.

[growing_wings]

Hey roses. ...

Sounds like you are focusing on yourself and moving on... . which is good, but I agree with you,  at times I am puzzled too with her behaviour ... .

I think you are right on the assumptions behing her unblocking you,  I think they seek for a reaction. . My ex did the same to me when she did not see a reaction from me after silent treatment,  she might have thought that blocking me would make me go and talk to her ... . but I didn't. ... to date, more than 2 months ago I have not contacted her... . I still thinl about her  but less with time... .

Hang in there. . Good for you that you are focusing pn yourself. ...

Be well

[slimmiller]

I have to see mine about every other day on average because we are 'co-parenting' our three kids.

BUT

On fb I got her blocked harder and tighter then Fort Knox. I have no one else in the world blocked nor do I anticipate ever having to

My thought too is, why do you not block HER? I take it there are no children and if so, it makes blocking and NC much easier. And healthier in the long run I might add