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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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« on: March 06, 2014, 03:04:06 PM »

It has been a while since I have been on here but I have been thinking lately about how grateful I am to have had his site for support over the years.  I have been out of Oz within my romantic life for almost 8 years now, and my BPD/NPD caregiver died almost a year ago, so most of those ties for me are severed.  However, the pain still lingers from time to time in the form of triggers.  I am pretty good at diffusing them now but do still rely on support and I am grateful for this place to come as needed to both give and receive what I need to keep balance in my life.  And... . to remind me once in a while that although the yellow brick road is shiny, and the poppies smell wonderful, and the gleam of the city is sparkly... . it just isn't a place I want to be Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2014, 01:50:47 PM »

Hi aboutabrownie,

That is wonderful to hear, I'm glad you've found such good support.  I feel the same way about this site, it helped me tremendously, and I know what you mean about triggers.  Sometimes I'm surprised at my reactions.

I'd love to know what helped you most in your healing?

Thanks for posting, it's important for us to hear of success stories and good news.

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« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2014, 02:26:51 PM »

  I am pretty good at diffusing them now

hi aboutabrownie,

i am very grateful to this site and the folks here too... . gosh my situation would have been a lot harder without the ability to share my exprience and be listened... . and also learning how others cope with the overwhelming situation!

how do you defuse he triggers? i would like to hear about that...

could you share?
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