slander/libel

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Anyone ever sued their BPD for slander.   I know they all do the smear campaign.   What do you do when it goes public?

My BPD has threatened to go to newspapers.   Now she has put slander online.   My biggest concern is that the children will see it.   Since she links to the stuff on her twitter it is likely they would.

How do you deal with this kind of stuff?   I feel like I have to go after her to get it shut down.

[suffering_parent]

Anyone ever sued their BPD for slander.   I know they all do the smear campaign.   What do you do when it goes public?

My BPD has threatened to go to newspapers.   Now she has put slander online.   My biggest concern is that the children will see it.   Since she links to the stuff on her twitter it is likely they would.

How do you deal with this kind of stuff?   I feel like I have to go after her to get it shut down.

[ForeverDad]

Here are some of the results from a search of the past 6 months.  (See SEARCH on blue menu above.)

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=219726.0  Slander

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=221492.0  Smear campaigns

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=218604.0  Cease & desist

[suffering_parent]

So the latest is she has posted a crowd-funding campaigin to "rescue" her kids.    First sentence calls me a kidnapper.   She has links posted to it everywhere.

She is sending it to famous people via twitter etc.   The whole thing is one big lie.    I asked the website "indiegogo.com" to take it down.   Hopefully they do!

BPD HELL!

[maxen]

do you have a lawyer?

[Unleashed]

I am not convinced the civil court approach to slander would be effective at least in my region. If you had a career relevant reputation to keep, i.e. your job is an elected position, etc. then I see more cause.  The issue is you bring a domestic induced slander to court that may not get the objective attention that say a common crime would.

So a few thoughts:  speak consistently (w/o contradiction), with limited emotion with those friends you don't have 100% trust in, dress clean, presentable when in public, focus on calmness. So pile up the little things that allow outsiders to portray you as "solid".  It seems you are trying to present this to friends rather than a court.  Friends notice conduct.

Final thought, if anything used against you by her covers the area of illegal surveillance, computer trespass, etc, if it happens to, then that is far more criminally prosecutable and serious. My stbX has done similar slander, I do have evidence for computer trespass however (no nothing bad was found, but hey it's a crime... . ).

Slander audiences will either figure out the truth, or themselves are frayed and probably not the best to have around, eh.

[suffering_parent]

I am not worried at all about friends/family.   She is so crazy most people figure it out pretty quick.   My life is in order and I have nothing to hide.   

What I do worry about is our kids.   They are young enough to not understand the insanity.   I hate the stuff online because they are savvy enough to run into it.   For example, my oldest daughter was liking all her photos on instagram with the replacement right after she left.   I caught it quickly enough, but the damage was already done.

It is just frustrating they can cause so much chaos and stress.

[Unleashed]

What I do worry about is our kids.   They are young enough to not understand the insanity.

Sorry to hear, I think we are more sensitive by nature of it. I am dealing with that right now (3 months of evil comments to kids since separation).  Under ten years old, they may switch sides a few times, get confused.  Over ten years old, they begin to see thru the FOG.  That is my experience right now as well. In speaking with others in my life with even adult kids, the pattern is there, you be solid and calm, and the kids typically read thru it, matter of time.

And, carrying oneself in a calm solid manner with both cripple the BPD'er wanting to incite drama, and will instill confidence in your kids.  You have a lemon, the time has come to make lemonade, it will stir itself... .