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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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Dolly rocker
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« on: May 01, 2014, 03:25:29 PM »

So it's been 2 months of nc on my behalf. He's been trying  to contact me every forthright or so.

But I stood my ground. I'm not a fool.

So he rang again today 10 times and texted trying to be funny ( he wasn't) and tried to get me to go on Whaysapp (I didn't).

So he kept calling till I picked up and said: "stop calling" and hung up on him.

He did stop calling and I felt so strong! I think NC is great and it helps u to move on. Now I just don't feel as bitter as I was. So angry at myself or him. Its just becoming more and more of a distant memory from a dark phase of my life!

Goodbye sad boy! Welcome stress free future! Smiling (click to insert in post)

Oh by the way I had plans of sending him a letter that I wrote after I found out he had found a replacement. I was very bitter and never got the chance to tell him how I felt. But I decided not to send that letter. I wouldn't give him the pleasure to find out how much hurt he caused me!

What do u guys think? 

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Hurtbeyondrepair27
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« Reply #1 on: May 01, 2014, 03:27:54 PM »

  this is awesome! You being me hope! Strong woman you!

Good for not sending that letter! I agree dont let him even know about the

Suffering he put,you through.

He needs to know you are strong and can do better!
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« Reply #2 on: May 01, 2014, 03:28:32 PM »

I think you rock! Doing the right thing (click to insert in post).  And I'm a little jealous, I want to be where you are

And good for you not sharing your letter! I'd like to rip my tongue out, and fingers off for all the times I "shared", waste of time.

You go!

CiF
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« Reply #3 on: May 01, 2014, 03:36:55 PM »

Please believe me guys, it DOES get better!

Just be strong and keep NC. The less contact the less you will be attached to them!

It's over! We are not idiots! We have brains and pride! So let's keep NC!

It makes me smile every time he tries to speak to me. His misery is my satisfaction! Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #4 on: May 01, 2014, 03:44:27 PM »

Please believe me guys, it DOES get better!

Just be strong and keep NC. The less contact the less you will be attached to them!

It's over! We are not idiots! We have brains and pride! So let's keep NC!

It makes me smile every time he tries to speak to me. His misery is my satisfaction! Smiling (click to insert in post)

Well?  See that's the thang, nobody be tryin to contact me so I can't have that "lil boost"

But yes! I'm keepin NC!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

CiF
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« Reply #5 on: May 01, 2014, 03:46:59 PM »

Just keep going CiF!

Smiling (click to insert in post) you're know your worth! You don't need this idiot!
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« Reply #6 on: May 01, 2014, 04:13:35 PM »

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Well?  See that's the thang, nobody be tryin to contact me so I can't have that "lil boost" wink

YES! It's the contact from them that would help and put me on this path! But then when it stops hmmm? EITHER WAY I want 10 calls and 20 texts! I do!I'm honest but learning Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #7 on: May 01, 2014, 05:47:20 PM »

Yay, Dolly rocker!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post) I'm so happy that you are well on your journey to healing. You should definitely feel strong and proud for standing your ground and keeping NC!

He did stop calling and I felt so strong! I think NC is great and it helps u to move on. Now I just don't feel as bitter as I was. So angry at myself or him. Its just becoming more and more of a distant memory from a dark phase of my life!

Goodbye sad boy! Welcome stress free future! Smiling (click to insert in post)

I love this! 
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« Reply #8 on: May 01, 2014, 08:01:44 PM »

I needed to read this post. Thank you. You are an inspiration
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